Sure, let’s blame women for not being smart enough. That’s productive. You’re giving a lot of room for men yet none for women. Men who commit these violent, misogynistic acts will likely be skilled liars & narcissists. They would have prowled & successfully convinced dozens of women that they’re safe when they’re not. Abusive men as well change their female partner’s brain with the abuse. Even without a background of abuse/trauma, any woman in the world can imbibe the messages we’re directly & purposefully fed about needing to be submissive & able to withstand torture. Women are shown through porn & common media that the sexiest woman can still smile & perform while being brutalized (though common media wont see BDSM as brutalization, it’s perspective). While I’m in favor of women arming themselves (as I don’t believe men will change) let’s not slide back in progress so far that we call women ignorant. I’m sure many women felt something. But we aren’t raised to trust that. As well, many women don’t know what these red flags look like. I’ve had so many conversations with women about men, how you can feel them out, even when they have a personality disorder that would complicate it; and many times all they need is for someone to teach them the language. I remember one women who had been abused for twenty years turning to look at me & saying “I’d never thought about it like that.” Don’t underestimate how deceit, manipulation, violence, & abuse can affect women’s ability to process threatening behavior.

You’re calling these women weak for being beaten to death & not having the mystical power of foresight to see it coming. Or are other women weak for being vulnerable & traumatized, deserving in their pursuit of bdsm? Mind clarifying that? We’re all accountable for our actions, but when we’re looking at a pattern of behavior in females who often share similar backgrounds or experiences, it’s shallow & ridiculous to pass it off as their weakness, ignorance, or stupidity.