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[–]oofreesouloo 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Hey! I really hope you're feeling more calm right now. Hugs <3 Not too long ago, I was discussing this topic and also how it affects the meaning of sexuality with like 5 people and they were ALL against me. I felt like a put up a good fight AND eventually I had two supporters of me as well, in particular one of them sticked up with me until the end. I know how overwhelming it can be. But do you know one thing that I noticed? At least 3 of them who were against me were bisexual. So, these 3 bisexual people were "enlighting" me, a lesbian and thus, a monossexual, HOW "reductive" I was being in "reducing people to genitals". That my "penis repulsion" was NOT normal. That I needed to UNLEARN IT. As you can imagine, me, a homosexual person who've tried to like several times guys before because I used to feel shameful of my sexuality, took it as something highly offensive and infuriating. I tried to maintain calm and focus on a healthy debate, but EXCUSE ME??????? And also, my supporters, guess what? Both monosexuals! Coincidence? I don't think so. One of them was a straight man and another, I'm pretty sure was a gay man but I think he didn't want to come out to protect himself (maybe he's not out). SO, why am I telling you this? I've noticed that MANY TRAs supporters tend to be either bisexuals or asexuals OR straight people who clearly aren't being so affected and just don't want to "look bad" and spit out the TWAW mantra without thinking. As you obviously know as a bisexual person, a bisexual person enjoy both sexes, and I realised in my opinion they tend to become more blind and not really realise how harmful this all thing is being to women AND homosexuals. Because for bisexual people it's obviously "easier" to not care if "a woman has a penis" or "a man has a vagina". I'm not saying ALL bi people are like this, and I DO know there are also bi people being called transphobic for this and YOU are the prime example (lmao) that not all bi people are like this. But let me just say it was quite laughable to TRY to explain to BI people what it's like to ONLY like ONE sex. You have no idea how confused they were, they SIMPLY couldn't comprehend AND I was the bigoted, hateful one. They were confusing everything, for example, sexual attraction with simply finding someone aesthetically pleasing (I can find men attractive but I won't ever find myself sexually attracted to them because I'm a lesbian). To THEM, this was highly confusing lmao!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The same applies to asexual people, they tend to be more "blind" as they don't feel sexual attraction towards no one at all. So this is to say - do not be too hard on yourself and well, just to let you know that perhaps you haven't thought about this as a bi person and it might help you not to take it so personal. And I really hope none of this has come as offensive to you, and I truly admire bi people who are sensitive on these issues, and everyone else of course.

[–]Greykittymomma 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Yes, it really bothers me when people say this and I am bi. I support my gay and lesbian friends. To say they have "genital preference" is such a basic and wrong way of understanding homosexuality. Men and women are different and I appreciate different things in them.

Trans folks can be attractive but not wanting to have a relationship sexual or otherwise with them should be accepted. Otherwise you are pretty much saying it's ok for trans folks to rape us because they are entitled to sex from whoever they want. Just doesn't work that way.

[–]Criticalofgender[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's the fucking argument that they are super oppressed that we shouldn't speak out, it makes me sick. I'm always trying to be "kind" and don't want anyone to feel left out, but that doesn't mean that I'm not critical of what are you saying. Any reason to not jabe sex with someone is valid and should be taken seriously.