I think males have learned to be too dependent upon females for validation, emotional caretaking, and motivation. The angry and bitter incels may talk about sex constantly and blame their virgin status for their woes, but it's more that males have learned to be validated through women having sex with them. It's why most incels don't feel better whatsoever if they lose their virginity to a prostitute, because then they feel even LESS like a man.

Males depend on females for emotional caretaking as well because they aren't encouraged to have deep connections in their male friendships, and thus they keep all their feelings locked up tight just waiting to find a woman with whom he can finally be himself. Young males today are growing up in a society that superficially berates toxic masculinity, and unfortunately many of these boys growing up feel revulsion or even hatred for their fathers, so they became alienated from masculinity and desperate to enter the emotionally gratifying company of femininity, yet they are too undersocialized to be able to interact with the opposite sex successfully.

Male friendly relationships with one another in general just seem so distant and casual these days, and far too many males only interact with their fellow males online, which exposes them to radical and hateful ideologies. Then they are told that all their woes are because they haven't had sex, because that's how a man proves he is valid and proves he is a member of the male community. Men used to have so many bonding experiences and even initiation rituals to welcome boys to manhood, but now the doorway to manhood has become SOLELY having sex, which encourages putting women way high up on pedastals one minute and then despising every woman alive the next. And in men who ARE married or partnered, more and more of them consider their wives their best friend or often really their ONLY friend.

This starts to make such males feel like females COULD solve all their problems SO easily if they WANTED to, and they feel rage and bewilderment when women fail to come along and fix everything that's wrong in their lives. I have spoken with an awful lot of men in their late teens/early 20s who have more of a fairy tale concept of relationships than even the average teenage girl, and it leaves them rudderless when their dream girl fails to materialize out of thin air. More and more men like this are simply opting out of life, reasoning that there's no reason to accomplish anything if a man is no longer guaranteed a wife and a family.