Even though I can find likeminded friends online, it feels too risky to seek out GC friendships in real life. After fully embracing the TRA agenda and even identifying as a TIF for much of my adult life, I am afraid to reveal to anyone I know personally that I've been secretly gender critical for years. There's so much more I could say about this and my journey, but out of fear of doxxing I feel that I can't. Many of my friends are gay or trans, and at this point I'm still too afraid to socially detransition. Because of many complicated factors, coming out as GC to the wrong person would be a disaster.

Years ago now, I got into an argument with an acquaintance I barely know on facebook over trans issues. At the time, I wasn't really familiar with radical feminism and I was just angry that this random TERF was "spewing transphobic hate" on my page - and I was surprised that she never backed down on a public post even as my many TRA friends descended upon her. It was so long ago, but I never forgot about her and I want to reach out somehow, but I am afraid for my own sake. What if she had a change of heart and after all these years is now a TRA? She's the only openly GC woman I know.

And now that the GC subreddit is gone, what already felt lonely now feels especially desolate out there. Even though plenty of people are peaking, the trans lobby is doing a very good job of painting us as hysterical transphobes with secret right-wing agendas. Just simply acknowledging that biological sex is real is compared to fascism... This isn't the trans community I knew and loved back in 2008. Sometimes if I try to tactfully bring up specific GC concerns about this and other women's issues with specific friends in the queer community, they'll secretly agree with and acknowledge certain GC points. But then publicly, they're all anti-terf.

I'm asking everyone but particularly interested in hearing from young, gay gender critics living in uwu hell: where and how do you meet GC friends?