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[–]sosorreal[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah, I've wondered this and I did tell him that I am fully capable of thinking for myself and coming to a different conclusion than him, and in fact in my initial research I did try to agree with him. But I just don't, and it doesn't mean I'm hateful or a bigot or transphobic or anything like that. I don't know what he thinks anymore, we just agreed to not talk about it at all but that he would read an essay if I wrote one (which I am pretty sure I will do because this is really important to me). I think that if he still wouldn't change his mind, that it would be over because I don't want to have kids with someone who believes the current trans rhetoric.

[–]badMADam 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It is crazy that you would need to put in so much effort (writing a fucking essay so he doesn't need to do anything by himself?) instead of just being able to give him your points and him either thinking them through on his own like a grown up, or doing some extra research if he really wants to refute your points or if he is sceptica. Actually it is okay to be sceptical of an opinion from a person you respect, but how would you react in this case? Go doing some research if the topic is important to you and then discuss it with your partner maybe or resort to name- calling. But hey, at least he agreed to read an essay you made about it. I am curious how he would react to the essay. But thb even if he finally saw your points I would then leave this person, as I wouldn't see it as my job to "educate" any person with so much effort on anything important to me because they refuse a normal discussion.

I mean writing an essay for yourself is great, but lol at his "generosity" that he might read it, how very courteous of his highness?

[–]sosorreal[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, all good points! I don't know, he just said that he WOULD NOT change his opinion that transwomen are women, and he thinks I'm trying to "convert" him, but it's just... I don't understand why he can't see what is obvious truth?!