GC: What are the differences between sex segregation and racial segregation? Why is the former required, while the latter is discriminatory?

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[–]MarkTwainiac 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

As a lesbian, I have stared at women sexually and dreamt of doing sexual things with them, especially in bathrooms and locker rooms.

Staring at women in a leering, suggestive, sexually aggressive way in locker rooms, toilet facilities and other such settings is not acceptable for anyone, including lesbians and bi women. It's also NOT customary behavior for lesbians and bi women, either. At all.

In another post on this thread you say

I don't stare too much by the way. My sex drive changes frequently, from feeling nothing to feeling too much all of a sudden. Most times, when I see other women anywhere, I don't feel anything. But there are these occasions I have a high sex drive and stare even if it's on the streets ...

It must be because I've never had sex? Not sure. I'm very introverted and socially awkward. Even talking to others is a hard task for me, that's why I've never even been in a relationship. 😅

Please stop suggesting that what you personally do on the streets every once in a while is indicative of what all or the majority of lesbians and bi women customarily and constantly do, and have historically done, in intimate spaces like locker rooms and loos. None of us can make generalizations about entire classes of people based on our own individual life experience. This is even more the case for you because as you admit, you have very limited life experience. You do not represent lesbians or bi women as a group. You do not speak for them.

From your many posts on this sub, you are a very poorly informed person with little experience and knowledge about the topics you opine about more generally. Though many here find your threads and posts frustrating and tiresome, you have been shown a great deal of tolerance. But today I am drawing a line in the proverbial sand and saying I do not and will not tolerate this new attempt of yours to sully the reputation of all lesbians and bi women by painting them in a negative light.

Lesbians and bi women are not sexually aggressive leches who in locker rooms, ladies loos and other intimate female spaces tend to stare and leer at other women in a pervy, predatory way that is akin to the way boys & men use the "male gaze" to regard us as pieces of meat.

For you to suggest lesbians and bi women typically do behave this way is incredibly offensive. It's not only a total lie, but it's clearly meant to make lesbians and bi women out to be "manly" and "mannish" and "just as bad as men" for the purpose of suggesting that if boys and men don't belong in female intimate spaces, then lesbians and bi women don't either. This is a position that is homophobic, biphobic, sexist and misogynistic. Smearing lesbians and bi women as you are attempting to do is, as the British would say, not on, OP. It's not on at all.

[–]VioletRemihomosexual female (aka - lesbian) 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

It's also NOT customary behavior for lesbians and bi women, either. At all.

I am often ashamed to look in such spaces at all, as I feel a bit guilty. And most lesbians I know are not looking at other women, especially not staring in such spaces.

[–]jackrusselterror1 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly. I’m bisexual and I either beeline for a private space if possible at a communal locker/shower area, or I face away from any person and change as quickly as possible. Tbf I think most women try to rush through this with minimal interaction, the locker room isn’t a magical gathering place for women to converse and bond. I do judge people who start up conversations with strangers in these places or can’t stop staring in locker rooms or bathrooms, there’s no reason we can’t save talking for when I’m actually fully dressed or not on the toilet, and I wish they’d have a little social awareness please.

Consent is extremely important, and no one wants to be watched with sexual intent when vulnerable. Like I said, I’m attracted to other women, but even if I was attracted to the woman eyeing me in a locker room, I’d find the lack of tact and consideration for others completely off putting and wonder what other boundaries that person routinely breaks.