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[–]loveSloaneDebate King 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun -  (7 children)

More like International Narcissism Day amiright??? Lol

Eta- it’s annoying And cringe, but at this point I can scroll past online or end the conversation in person.

[–]worried19[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Has the conversation ever come up in person?

[–]loveSloaneDebate King 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Oh yes

[–]worried19[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

How do you deal with it?

I've been thinking about various strategies in case it comes up for me.

[–]loveSloaneDebate King 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I don’t even strategize unless it’s work related. If is work related (which is rare) I just let them tell me their Pronouns and say “I’m a woman”. If it’s not work related I literally just say “I’m gc i don’t play the pronoun game” and usually they get upset and try to push their ideology and tell me I’m a bigot and I just say “okay” and walk away. It doesn’t happen often, but I don’t have the energy to go back and forth. I get more gc daily and o just lost the patience.

[–]worried19[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I can't imagine dealing with it so often in real life. That must suck. I think my strategy if it ever comes up for me is to say I'm uncomfortable talking about gender in public. I hope no one would press me further.

[–]MezozoicGaygay male 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Pronouns are used when person is not present at all, in English it is possible to just call persons name instead of pronouns. That is easiest way so far I found.

In our language it is much harder (gladly there almost no transgenders, even thought there will be more it seems, as trans organizations got money funding from the West, and using homophobia as way to push ideology, like "make your kid straight" - LGB organizations here almost never were getting much help from the West). In our language we almost not using pronouns, but our language is gendered, so you are saying sex of the person even when directly speaking to them ("you made this" will sound different depending on sex of person you are speaking to, it will be "you made-he this" or "you made-she this" [or "you made-it this" when referring to an abomination or something that can't be described or identified], announcing sex of person, it is possible to say "it was made by you", then it will be neutral speaking to any sex). It is impossible to speak to someone with "special" pronouns, because it will need to re-make every word in language. And it is hard to speak with transgenders, as every word implying their sex. However, it is possible to speak in neutral way, but people prefer not to (and mostly using it only when there those special people who demand weird changes to language, most women online are using neutral way of speaking about themselves and everyone else, to avoid sexism and prejudices).

[–]worried19[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's easy to avoid using pronouns one-on-one, but it's much harder if you're in the workplace and you need to speak about someone else in the third person. It can be done, it just comes across as obviously awkward and unnatural.