Both: What are your feelings on BDSM and the sex-positivity movement?

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[–]worried19[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

What do you mean by proper education? I think trying to "educate" people about BDSM just feeds into the normalization of such acts. I'd rather society simply refused to acknowledge it.

[–]burninglikeabridge 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I think it would be harm reduction for sure and not to prevent people from doing BDSM. At the end of the day people are going to do it anyways, i think refusing to acknowledge it hurts more than helps.

Proper education would be learning about a healthy dominant/submissive relationship, the after care for both parties, learn about abuse and what that looks like, consent, and then also how to safely practice BDSM and the risks associated with certain acts and how to best prevent harm. For people over 18, i don't think this should be taught at schools. Besides the consent, abuse signs, and safe sex part of it, that should be taught better in schools.

[–]worried19[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

But by "educating" people, you're spreading the knowledge of such acts, especially if they're forced into the mainstream.

Men's Health just ran a disgusting article on strangling women. They might try to present it in the guise of education, but this is pure promotion and normalization.

https://saidit.net/s/GenderCritical/comments/5px4/mens_health_magazine_how_to_choke_a_woman_i_dont

And 91% of men in the poll describe it as "hot." Things like that make me want to die. They make me want to kill myself rather than continue to exist as female in a world that hates women. This is what normalization of porn and sexualized violence lead to, a society in which nearly all men find strangulation of women arousing.

[–]burninglikeabridge 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah, thats why harm reduction isn't perfect. It's meant to reduce harm but can sometimes cause more harm.