Why are cluster b's so horrible?

submitted by gloomy_bear from self.AskSaidIt

I've dealt with a fair share of "people" who display cluster b traits, are cluster b (diagnosed or undiagnosed) and they are the absolute worst. Narcissists and borderlines are the ones I've unfortunately dealt with. I am an overly suspicious and paranoid person as it is, but it gets WORSE when I get hurt by these so called "people". I honestly might have an undiagnosed cluster a disorder, specifically PPD. I hate living every day constantly on guard and looking for signs that somebody is out to harm or deceive me. I have a tendency to over read hidden malicious intent when others are like in their heads: "how did you conclude x to y, when I don't see it". It's tiring.

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[–]jet199 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Cluster Bs are stuck at a child level of emotional maturity.

They are going to deal with any issue like a toddler or a teenager.

Frankly, your issue sounds just like regular man thinking. Just make sure you are getting enough vitamin B.

[–]fschmidt 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

I don't know what cluster b or PPD are. It sounds like you are simply experiencing modern scum. Humanity has recently turned to shit and almost all of them deserve... Actually SaidIt censorship prevents me from saying what they deserve, but after getting what they deserve, they would no longer be alive. Stop being confused and just learn to hate modern humanity like I do.

[–]SMCAB 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Don't know what narcissism is, yet never shuts the fuck up about how EVERYONE on the planet deserves to die except him. Got it. Wow.

Makes sense, a narcissist would never ask about or understand what narcissism is.

[–]fschmidt 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Not everyone, just modern scum like you. Traditional Anabaptists and some religious Muslims are fine.

[–]SMCAB 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Get fucked loser. Go away like you did last time. It was nicer around here without your moronic bullshit. Sandnigger.

[–]jet199 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Indeed 50% of young people now have serious narcissistic traits.

This isn't just a problem with modernity, it is an actual mental illness which kids are getting because they aren't getting proper feedback on their bad behaviour at the right ages.

There are long known ways to combat this but the trouble is it means admitting that a lot of those considered "good guys" in politics are actually ill, need to change their ways and are causing most of their own problems rather than blaming oppressors.

[–]fschmidt 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Not 50% of young people, but at least 90% of modern humanity. Modern culture has destroyed most of humanity. And politics no longer matters.

[–]package 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

BPD people are legitimately the worst and belong in camps. Their ability to love bomb and then completely discard people out of the blue is enough to cause PTSD and ruin people mentally. God forbid if you get one that uses their free time to actively attack the people they've discarded. Protip if you're ever with a chick and find yourself saying "oh, I thought you guys were close" in regards to one of her friends, get out of there and never look back.

[–]gloomy_bear[S] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, I've dealt w somebody that has BPD and she has ruined my mental health a lot. She's undiagnosed, but her new "favorite person" is diagnosed w BPD. They have the audacity to project their worst characteristics onto others, and they also put assumptions and believe to know what you're thinking.

[–]SMCAB 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

Because others only exist to float them through life, they love like toddlers do. And the maddening part is how they exclaim that they are empaths. I do not know one person IRL that has claimed this that even knows what that word really means.

Just run, as soon as you see the signs, cut and run.

They literally should be rounded up and put on an island.

[–]jet199 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I have a script idea around that concept

[–]SMCAB 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I'd love to see a movie or show that didn't pretend as if these people aren't just mean, or that they just "love hard" until they don't.

[–]jet199 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

There's 4 BPD mother sub types.

https://emdrtherapyvolusia.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/Borderline_Mother_Subtypes.pdf

Quite easy to make characters out of these and have their kids stick them all on an island and let them fight it out.

[–]winkot 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

They ARE out to harm or deceive you. Living should have taught you that much.

[–]FourteenDigitz 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

this is exactly something a cluster A would say

[–]gloomy_bear[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

uh huh and your point?

[–]grassfed 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Don't be round

[–]Musky 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

People are shitty and they'll all let you down, they'll all lie to you, they'll all use you for their own benefit and toss you away afterwards. It's not because of a special condition unfortunately.

[–]SMCAB 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Dude, yes, people in general are and can be shitty, personality disorders are a whole new level. Especially Cluster B's.

I don't lie to my kids and people close to me, I don't use people, I don't gaslight people. I don't smear what's in my bag of shit on people, and if I do I clean it up. I act selflessly and find my worth in what I provide them. I finally found someone that acts kindly and actually cares about me, she's boring as shit, but she's real and it's on me to change what I'm attracted to.

[–]Musky 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

You're a good dude SMCAB.

[–]SMCAB 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

I think you are too, American Muskrat.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

You're literally talking to someone with a cluster B disorder who does all of the things you listed.

[–]SMCAB 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Maybe, but I don't have friends on the internet like you guys do, don't take that the wrong way, it's no judgment whatsoever, it's just not me. I don't hang out in chat, I don't know anyone here other than the comments they produce on a variety of topics. And my comment stands because he's not a useful idiot, and understands what one is.

I'm never going to be in a interpersonal relationship with him or anyone else on a computer. So......context I guess???

I won't say a word on whether you're correct or not, because I'll never know, and I'm assuming you do from what I've read around here over the years, so if that's the case, I'm sorry. Part of the disorder is that I would never know that unless I got close to them.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Fair enough.

[–]gloomy_bear[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah I've dealt w jerkwads and they're obviously pieces of work, but I agree cluster b's are a lot worse.