Maybe I still have a shot

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[–]LarrySwinger2 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (9 children)

What are your goals?

[–]Vulptex[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

A lot. I'll elaborate later.

[–]cqtz 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (7 children)

Good luck on whatever they may be.

[–]Vulptex[S] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you!

[–]Vulptex[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Nevermind. It's useless.

[–]NodeThis is my flair. There are many like it, but this one is mine. 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

It will be as long as you hold onto that belief.

[–]Vulptex[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I didn't used to believe this. I didn't want to. But believing something different won't change reality.

[–]NodeThis is my flair. There are many like it, but this one is mine. 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

But believing something different won't change reality.

I believe the opposite. Your reality is filtered through your beliefs. Your perceptions of reality, and your resulting behaviors, can affect and change the reality of others around you.

[–]Vulptex[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Haha I wish. I'm doomed no matter what happens. Only a miracle could save me now. And we all know that the miracles were already given to all my special counterparts and I'm excluded.

[–]NodeThis is my flair. There are many like it, but this one is mine. 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Okay, you know yourself pretty well, I assume. If you don't have self-control, as in being able to decide on a course of action and actually do that thing, then changing may be out of your own reach.

Given that you write well and are able to respond articulately, I think you could change your behaviors to get different results. You would likely need some kind of coach-therapist who is competent, AND is the 'right fit' personality-wise.

I'm doomed no matter what happens.

For example, this belief pretty much guarantees your continued fails, because the mind works to fulfill your beliefs. Much would change in your life if someone were able to help you change that to "things will work out for me somehow".

Pretend that you're not doomed, and that you'll find a way to get more of what you want. Just try it and see what happens.