I moved out of the city into s mall semi rural town near mountain forests, but I am close enough that I used to drive into work into the city. 2.5-3 hours travel each day. However that is no longer possible as now infrastructure is degrading and driver intelligence is getting worse.

I spend a lot of time talking to suburban people who are stuck there like you. The first thing I tell them to do is get a gun. Even a shitty one. As a single shot shotgun puts you 1,000% ahead of someone who does not have a gun. Should help you to get out. Next to know someone who is out. I am a meeting point for a lot of people. I also have infrastructure and defense tools on hand. Many people like me are willing to house people like you, as long as you are interested in helping and putting the effort in.

Dont admire me too much yet, I put aside a lot of my prep plans in order to have kids. Wife barely works now so she can raise them properly and that cut our finances down. I am still also at the whim of the banks. I can lose everything when I run out of money. It's the worst thing ever.