How does this argument pose when women marry below their own earnings though? (I know that you said usually, simple question though). I think there are definitely certain types that look specifically for a provider, and that's showing up more often in men now too with the mommy gf meme. You're seeing things in a really pessimistic way though. You kind of block yourself from happiness if you can only focus on worst case scenarios, and that keeps you safe from being taken advantage of but also possibly keeps you from finding a partner you can be happy with in marriage.