What men don't know: Women AREN'T men. Our perspective is different from yours. And, not all women are the same!

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[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Well, no, again this is the problem with our perceptions. Quite literally the more attractive you are the more positively and confident you are perceived to be, irrespective of your own self assessment or anything you do or say. Again something found with many many tests of interactions and dating simulations where people rank one another, comparing married people and friends, asking people to rank one another personality while others rank attractiveness, etc.

I cannot say this enough: "What is beautiful is good". Positive personality attributes are given to attractive people, negative ones to ugly ones. A "Confident" ugly person is actually perceived as worse than one who isn't, they're seen as pushy or aggressive or creepy. It's all been studied before. The absolute least favorably viewed people in dating simulation studies are the ugly ones that are assertive.

[–]cybitch 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

This is called the halo effect. It works for all situations in life, not just dating. People with better bone structure are granted a bunch of other positive traits based on it, whether there's a reason to or not. I'm guessing it's probably because when we evolved, before modern medicine, physical health could make or break you in a lot of ways. In modern days, medicine can compensate, so that now you don't need to be born with great health in order to do well by society, however our subconscious minds failed to keep up with the progress.

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Might want to reply that to Grateful as well. Sadly, unless they fixed this when I wasn't looking, your message to me won't notify the participants in the thread.