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[–]jet199 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

And look it at it the other way, gay men have to stay thin and young looking yet still macho or they stay lonely.

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I got three gay cousins. As far as i can interpret their personal stuff it seems like it doesn't work like that. At least not for all of them.

One of them told me that the "bodily attraction"-thingmajig is totally outside his personal equation when he is "looking".

He is an artist though... And the only one of my cousins that i keep in touch with on a regular basis. Because somehow he is as "weird" as i am. That is what keeps us connected, i believe.

All the artists i know that manage to make a living from their art are somehow "weird" in a very wide sense, once you get to know them, i suppose.

[–]jet199 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

It's also a thing that men will happily go for their lowest 10% in attractiveness for casual sex but want the top 10% for relationships.

For women it's top 10% for both. Likely because they risk pregnancy.

Of course there's no accounting for personal taste.

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I suppose this is conclusive.

There is some "new" definition for the way, my personal choosing of a partner e.g. supposedly "works". But then there are the cases of many couples of either orientation or sex i know in person that found their "personal" workaround, so to say. Including myself.

That is how it should be. At least in my simulation this is sound. Beautiful even, if i watch some of these "things" closely without interfering. I love watching this... how couples cope... It feels so purely human...