TIL There is an inverse correlation between the amount of money spent on a wedding, and how long the marriage lasts. The more people spend on the ceremony, the more likely the couple will get divorced.

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[–]Canbot 19 insightful - 4 fun19 insightful - 3 fun20 insightful - 4 fun -  (5 children)

And that is on having a materialistic wife. If she wants a huge wedding, which really is just for her, at the cost of your families financial future that isn't an attitude that is going to change after the wedding. Don't get me wrong, if I were rich I would want to have a wedding that was a vacation and party for all the guests; but only if I would still be left rich enough to never have to work. Every dollar spent now is worth 20 by the time you retire.

At the same time being poor makes divorce far more difficult. If you don't control for people who stay together out of poverty then the "study" is seriously compromised.

[–]philosopher 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Yep, and the article mentions materialistic personality aspects that affect men too: the more that looks mattered to the people getting married, the more likely they were to divorce.

[–]magnora7 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

And not to mention the people who literally work themselves to their grave to buy things they never really wanted in the first place. Severe materialist desire is a disease.

[–]Canbot 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Definitely. Looks fade. If that is all that interested you then you will always be envious of the next pretty thing. So as soon as a pretty thing comes along that you can have it's pretty much over. The thing is, all men want the prettiest girl they can get so even a guy who marries a 5 can still be vain but incapable of getting what he wants, so he settles. While a guy who marries a 10 may have gotten lucky and found one who is also kind and smart and hard working. It's the guys who stay with abusive girls who are the ones only interested in looks. And you can't say it's all his fault that the marriage fell apart if the girl was a bitch because she was hot enough to get away with it her whole life. But that perfect 10 girl who has it all may find out that she can do better.

This is all some pretty muddy water. Maybe there are just too many ways to interpret the date for it to be useful.

[–]wicklesnarf 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

being poor makes divorce far more difficult

This is the first thing I thought of when I saw the title. Divorce can be expensive and being divorced is expensive--My parents were poor and having two separate rent payments after their divorce was really tough and affected spending everywhere else (like groceries). Especially if you have a lack of job security, it's scary and sometimes unrealistic to be out there on your own. Staying married can be a practical decision for either/both people.

Money buys you a lot of freedom, and choices. People shouldn't blindly romanticize couples who've had modest weddings when so many aren't a choice but because that's all they can afford. There are lots and lots of loveless or even toxic marriages that aren't any more a "successful" marriage than one that ends in divorce.

[–]rman 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This 100% - I came in here happy to see “stay together out of poverty” as the first comment — also I wonder if they account for who (parents, couple) pays for the wedding and if that makes much of a difference