Do porn and the men who claim to support you will destroy your future

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[–]weavilsatemyface 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Sexual insanity is part of the human condition, distracting us from the more useful and mundane activities

Oh please. The desire to be attract potential mates is one of the strongest drivers in humans to groom themselves and create wealth and success. Its only a little bit of an exaggeration to say that people built civilization so they had somewhere comfortable to shag.

in the earlier years of the US (the puritan phase), the sexual repression is nicely correlated with a hell of a productive period in our history.

That's pretty much the opposite of what happened. The most productive periods in US history were also the least repressive.

the changing of the standard woman's role

The "standard woman's role" for pretty much all of history, from ancient Greece to medieval Europe, was that pretty much everyone agreed women and men were equally lustful, or even that women were more lustful than men. It wasn't until the 18th and 19th century did the idea of women not wanting sex became mainstream, and then in the Victorian and post-Victorian early 20th century it went viral.

so there was a lot of insane sex going on in those past societies just like now. Having just convinced me of that, you have a contradiction claiming that today's similar sexual insanity is somehow more enlightened than that of earlier groups. ... Sexual insanity is part of the human condition ... sexual debauchery ... [emphasis added]

Jeez mate, you sound like me at 18 when I was railing against the sluts who were spreading their legs for every Tom Dick and Harry ("but not me..."). Pure, 100% sour grapes. Well, that and a bit of being terrified of rejection.

Take it from me, you need to get laid. If you can't pull some nice girl who'll let you pork her, save your paper round money and hire a professional. You'll be a lot more relaxed about other people having sex.

Yes yes yes, I know, we all want a loving romantic relationship with some gorgeous women who is a wild cat in bed and absolutely adores us. And I want a four course banquet made by Alain Ducasse, but I'll settle for a toasted cheese sanga when I'm hungry. There's no shame in it.

There's a lot of insanity in the 2022, but people fucking each other is not part of it.

[–]StillLessons 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Take it from me, you need to get laid. If you can't pull some nice girl who'll let you pork her, save your paper round money and hire a professional. You'll be a lot more relaxed about other people having sex.

You've got the wrong guy. I'm happily married to a hot female. Our sex life is great.

Earlier in my life, I was miserable and I hired professionals. It's precisely the difference between that experience and my current marriage that shapes the perspective you have misperceived. I now know from experience what a healthy sexual world can look like and I want to encourage that for all of us. I look around and I see a lot of very unhappy people. Simultaneously I see hookup culture being promoted and now being the norm for sexual activity for the young generation. Free sex doesn't seem to be leading to happiness. It looks to me to be the opposite.

Interestingly, when I was in my younger professional-hiring phase, I enthusiastically defended precisely the argument you are making. I've argued before what you are arguing here. I was extremely unhappy during that phase of my life. Maybe that's just me. I hope so. I hope you are happy living however you want to live. Perhaps my experience is unusual. I sometimes think maybe I'm a strange form of autistic, with a range of unusual emotional responses. But then I look at the advice given by contemplative men and women throughout history, and they all offer the same advice I am offering here.

It's not that I find there to be some moral "Go to Heaven" to be enforced. I don't believe in that model at all. I just don't think the sexual free-for-all actually makes people happy. I think it makes us precisely the opposite. So I recommend the opposite of the direction our society is leaning. Do people seem sexually happy and satisfied to you? Why do you think there is a trans movement? Because the system as it has developed over the past 50 years has people - men and women both - entirely fucked up at this point. I want that to stop, for all of our sakes.