I agree with all this. She doesn’t say she is lesbian, she says she is a “queer” “gay” “trans man”. There was a short period pre trans where she did say she was lesbian. But now she says it “didn’t work for her”... whatever that means :/

I am not making fun of her at all. She has a really high ACE (adverse childhood experiences) score, and a hard life.

If she acts like a lesbian, and fucks you like a lesbian, she’s probably a lesbian. She keeps saying she is “into everybody” but clearly is not excited by men or their genitals.

Maybe she isn’t, and that’s her journey, but my intuition is that she is. It’s not far fetched at all for lesbians to sleep with men for the reasons you listed.

All I’m trying to say is pOLEASE, can we be nicer to other lesbians? We, especially the younger generation, are in the trenches right now. Yes we need to make sure bi women and straight women aren’t slipping in an appropriating our label. But! We should caution on the side of acceptance, of really listening to people’s stories, not rejection right now. It doesn’t take much listening to hear the googoogaga

I am so tired of having no actual lesbian space where I can talk to other confident, self-aware lesbians. The lesbian experience is often a very isolated one and it’s tragic. I’m tired of this saidit being the only space I have, having to text everything into my dinky phone. I want to talk to people, I want to see their faces. Yet because of the QT invasion there are no safe places in reality. Not even in ducking northhampton. Which is supposed to be the #1 lesbian city in the whole USA. There are no formal lesbian spaces there. What the fuck has this come to? I lived in 2 major gay areas and there was not one lesbian exclusive place for confident lesbians to hold the hands of struggling lesbians so we can heal together and come into ourselves. It sucks.