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[–]VioletRemi 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

Everyone is bisexual sounds very stupid, and very similar to political lesbians "every woman is lesbian, but forced into straight marriage", when it is just not true.

There are a lot more bisexuals than homosexuals, that is true, but homosexuals and heterosexuals aren't "fluid sexuality and just bisexuals in denial" even without society pushes. It would be really great to actually be able to be fluid or change your sexuality - it would saved me from so many problems in my life. However, it is just not possible.

My example should be a good one, I think. I was married on a man by my own choise and without any pressure outside, I wanted to become straight and to be normal like everyone. I really really tried to be aroused with him in a bed, we tried everything, but nothing worked. Even when I was wasted or with "arousal enduring pills", I would think about women or start molesting women - even when my brain is shut down. I can not make my body enjoy men, even if I really want and try everything. While being with women does not need anything, I am aroused very easily by women, just scent is enough. And I did not know anything about homosexuality back then, I did not know any homosexual people, I did not know that it is possible for two women to be together - so it is just body working on its own. Biology does not care about society and social pressure.

[–]Skipdip[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

I love this story, thank you for sharing. I relate to trying to be straight and thinking I could be the best straight because I was so pragmatic. I also did that creepy molesty stuff to women a bit. Sometimes a hug that lasted too long or whatever. Other times it was in my fantasies.

Biology is undeniable but it’s still so easy to miss, or interpret as something else. It’s not like lesbians are born with an L on our foreheads. That would be helpful actually.

If you read my ressponse to yousaythosethings, I tell my story more and wud appreciate ppl hearing it and seeing it I guess, because it’s still a struggle and obviously not a lot of ppl to talk about it with since me being lesbian is “transphobic” now

[–]VioletRemi 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I also did that creepy molesty stuff to women a bit.

Well, it was only when I was completely wasted as a "maybe like that I can enjoy man", but body knew better, lol.

with since me being lesbian is “transphobic” now

Yeah, homosexuality by existing makes genderqueer theory not true, so they need to get rid of homosexuality somehow, that is why they are so homophobic. As if we exist - then whole their theory is just wrong and they are believing in bullsh*t :D

[–]Skipdip[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I agree, it’s kind of funny in a way because all I need to do to prove them wrong is literally just show them my life haha. It’s so hard rn. I wish there was a real lesbian space where I could meet self aware lesbians face to face, or even just on zoom or something where it’s not just text all the time. Do you have a lesbian space?

[–]VioletRemi 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

True. All lesbian spaces are either banned, or infiltrated (especially in the internet). Lesbians are underground again :(

[–]Skipdip[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

:( so even you don’t have a lesbian space you go to? I’m probably projecting but I saw you in my mind as a confident established lesbian, who probably had a lesbian community somewhere.

[–]VioletRemi 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Well, I am living in small city here. And my country was pretty homophobic until recently. I am confident person, but not because other people.

[–]Skipdip[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ok, that’s real, me too. Internal lesbian fire of confidence from overcoming homophobia and misogyny lol