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[–]whateverman 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I'm used to it. It's everywhere.

I'm more tired of straight people not knowing how to interact with me because their sexuality pervades everything they say and do. God forbid I be nice to them since they'll misinterpret it as flirting. Parties are just for straights to find someone to fuck. I feel like an alien. They're so fucking horny all the fucking time. It's easier to ignore in the ads, media and stories. But it doesn't just end there.

I feel at ease with lesbians and gay men. Straight friends are nice, but they don't really understand.

[–]florasis 12 insightful - 5 fun12 insightful - 4 fun13 insightful - 5 fun -  (3 children)

You mean men? Straight women aren't like that. And do you have any idea of promiscuity among gay men? lol

[–]whateverman 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah, I do. But it's not directed at me and or present within our interactions. When I interact with gay men, I at least know their sexuality isn't AT me.

I've had plenty of straight women assume I'm flirting with them. They'd ask if I was into them, if I'd ask them out if they were gay, if they were my type, etc. They liked the idea that I might want them in the same way a man would. Pure validation. Some would get mad when I'd flat out say I would never be interested in them.

Some would find out I was gay and would become homophobic and hostile because obviously I'm into them because I'm a lesbian.

Do I have straight friends? Yeah. But we're different and it colours our interactions.

[–]florasis 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I know what you mean. Many will treat you differently when they know. And the women, yeah, many will just start seeing normal nice behaviour as a sign you're into them. It's pure narcissism. I remember reading a comment from a lesbian saying that her sexual orientation fucked her up, cause she couldn't relate with vast majority of women and men. In a sense she's right. You cannot relate completely and people can act in embarrassing ways.

[–]circus_cyaneus 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's how I feel. Can't relate to most men, can't relate to most women. Can't relate to most "kweer girls" or lesbians my age, either, because I'm a bit more socially conservative than the average. The friends I have are all very dear to me, but there are areas of our lives where our experiences differ in pretty radical ways --and this is OK with me! You become friends with people for many different reasons or even none at all. It just gets a little difficult and strange sometimes.

[–]oofreesouloo 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Okay, you're just like me. That's exactly how I feel overall.