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[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 3 fun -  (10 children)

Most people are not curious or they wouldn’t be extremely reductive and incorrect in their interpretation of things. They have unilaterally taken an idea that they don’t understand and run with it. Which is frustrating and deserved.

You are curious, don’t project that on other people because it is just not the case, as is evidenced from the majority of typical knee-jerk responses responses on here where everyone just assumes i am on board with a bunch of bisexuals and straight people filling up the community and calling themselves lesbians, which is not true.

[–]reluctant_commenter 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

Most people are not curious or they wouldn’t be extremely reductive and incorrect in their interpretation of things.

That is a major assumption to make, not only of people here but in general.

It is safe to say people are interested in these topics (I certainly see a lot of comments on this post)-- but they might not be "curious" about your views if they perceive you as hostile. I do think people are misunderstanding your intent and meaning, to a large degree. But, your writing style in this post seemed pretty accusatory, and "political lesbians" (old meaning OR modern meaning) is a hot-button topic, so it does not surprise me that people are jumping to the defensive.

You are curious, don’t project that on other people

Thank you for the suggestion, lol. :) I cannot assume that about people on s/lesbians (edit: in particular), but my experience in my own life has been that most people ARE curious-- but only express it if you meet them where they are at. You did not do that.

I am not trying to dismiss your views, I read your post and appreciated it. I think people are alienated not because they are "not curious" (with a few exceptions), but because the wording of the post had an accusatory tone. That's just my observation.

[–]oofreesouloo 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This, thank you.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

If you have seen curiosity over political lesbianism among lesbians then you must be looking a lot harder for it than I am. Hat’s off.

Also, if people can’t handle some lesbian sounding mad about a topic then they haven’t read this board much. Do you think I was expecting a good reaction? Hell no. But look at how much conversation is happening. I think this has been a net good and I am pretty happy about the response even if people don’t like my attitude. I don’t like their attitude. Attitudes are going unliked.

[–]reluctant_commenter 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Do you think I was expecting a good reaction? Hell no. But look at how much conversation is happening.

I am scratching my head. This seems like something of a self-fulfilling prophecy. You made a fairly aggressive post, but then seemed surprised when people responded to your negativity with negativity.

I am willing to bet more people would have realized that they actually agreed with you on the information, if they were not turned off by the way you presented the information. But, I don't know any other ways to say this besides the ways I already have, and you seem relatively satisfied with the outcome, so I'll leave it at that.

I don’t like their attitude. Attitudes are going unliked.

I am mildly amused by your attitude 😆

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Okay, you got me. I was actually surprised by how few women exist that don’t immediately write off political lesbianism, and its context historically, and all the activists involved, as “fake lesbians.” My post was a response to negativity, so I knew it would receive a lot, but man, people really showed up to prove some points for me. That’s fine.

I am really happy to see more info and discussion laid out on the subject around here. Even if most people hate political lesbianism and all it stands for in history, as least they can hate in context and stand in vagina power. Lol

[–]lairacunda 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Let me ask you something. Are you a lesbian? Are you a biological/natal female who is EXCLUSIVELY and SEXUALLY attracted to other bio/natal females?

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 4 fun4 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 4 fun -  (3 children)

Yeah babe. I’m even a goldstar and came out at 16, knew at 12. I’ve been out for 20+ years. Do you want to see my membership card as well?

[–]lairacunda 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Do you have one?

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

Sure, and I’ll ace the practical exam too

[–]lairacunda 4 insightful - 4 fun4 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

It's just that I've never been credentialed. Must be a new thing.