you’re not thinking about it past “it’s just in our DNA then, nothing else makes a difference”

Because I think that people are much more influenced by their biology than they want to believe. We like to think of ourselves as above our animal nature, as cultured and socialized, but that is only partly true. I don't relate to all these narratives about ''socialization'' and ''docile women'' at all. Yet I had average parents, grew up in a conservative religious area, didn't know about feminism until I went to uni (and even then didn't read much of it) etc. Everything was there to ''socialize'' me into docility and ''comphet'' and what not. So if all people are basically the same, why didn't it happen? I think it's simply because I'm much more disagreeable than the average woman, and most likely the average man, too (who himself is considerably more diagreeable than the average woman). Which I think is also the reason why so many more men than women go against social norms, don't seek groups to belong to and to be approved by, don't try to be liked by others, to please others and so on and so on. Yes, I agree that women are socialized in ways in which men aren't, but that is made possible by their underlying biology. Would it be possible to make men behave in some of the women-typical ways? Probably yes, at least to a large extent, but I think that you would need to exert much more power over them to achieve that in the first place, and even more to make them maintain this behavior over long periods of time.