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[–]SillyGoose 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

As a lesbian younger than you (16), I completely agree with this. I felt so guilty not being attracted to men at all that I ended up getting convinced that I had to be a "trans man", as if is impossible to just be a lesbian. Even now, despite knowing I am a lesbian, the "woke" people still make me feel bad. Being bi or pan is "cool" now and "sexuality is fluid", so being a lesbian isn't supported much. Honestly, the trans movement and its allies have hurt me way more than the run of the mill homophobes have at this point. I don't even know any other lesbians at my age, everyone is bi, pan, or trans now. It feels so isolating.

[–]RedditHatesLesbians 23 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 0 fun24 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Also 16 here! What's helped me is honestly just getting my mind as far from all this as possible. It sucks we don't have spaces or communities, but this forum really helps and I've been spending most of my time learning bass and martial arts and trying to make myself a more well rounded person. In the future, all of these people who made their entire personality being a nonbinary demi pan lesbian will be dull as rocks. Don't feel bad about yourself because we're the sane ones here, without a doubt. Like minded people in our age bracket do exist, so don't lose hope. Like for centuries of lesbians, your self love has to come from only within and niche groups again. But lesbians made it through all the hardships we've faced up until now and we always will. Lesbians will always exist, while these people are a modern phenomenon. Take heart.

[–]xAcidRainx 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Very well said!