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[–]SillyGoose 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

As a lesbian younger than you (16), I completely agree with this. I felt so guilty not being attracted to men at all that I ended up getting convinced that I had to be a "trans man", as if is impossible to just be a lesbian. Even now, despite knowing I am a lesbian, the "woke" people still make me feel bad. Being bi or pan is "cool" now and "sexuality is fluid", so being a lesbian isn't supported much. Honestly, the trans movement and its allies have hurt me way more than the run of the mill homophobes have at this point. I don't even know any other lesbians at my age, everyone is bi, pan, or trans now. It feels so isolating.

[–]throwaway080808[S] 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

My lesbian cousin actually told me the same thing about questioning whether or not she was a trans man because people at her university told her it was transphobic to like only one sex, as a lesbian. I really feel like people expect women to accept everyone and everything way more than they do men.

I feel exactly the same. In the end, I feel like the LGBT community has made me hate myself as much as (if not more) the homophobes have. What a sad commentary. I hope you're doing fine, if you need to talk send me a DM.

[–]SillyGoose 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Honestly, it is ridiculous. I never see straight men targeted in this way for only liking women, so why is it different for lesbians? It is sad that it happened to your cousin as well. I'm doing alright now for the most part even if I still feel guilty occasionally, but thank you for the offer.

[–]throwaway080808[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's pathetic, really. Sometimes I wish I was a straight man because straight men seem to be immune from everything lol. I hope you'll end up being the proudest lesbian ever, take care of yourself.

[–]Astrid2448 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I can completely understand why she feels that way. I’ve even seen trans men talking about how they were always exclusively interested in women, but when they started identifying as a man it suddenly became way more acceptable to like women. That no one questioned it anymore.

[–]throwaway080808[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh no that's just super sad