Does anyone else here can't relate to men?

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[–]oofreesouloo[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Thanks for your answer! :D Your answer does make a lot of sense, actually. Masculine women are still very different from masculine men, well, simply just because they're women and not men (mind blowing! /s). Defining masculinity and femininity is actually really hard to put into words, at least for me, because, for me, it's a group of behaviors one adopts, and many times those behaviors are subtle. It's not an easy thing to define. For example, you can be physically affectionate with someone and display a more 'masculine' behavior doing it or a 'feminine' behavior doing it. It's not really something people do 'on purpose', it just comes naturally. There are emotionally sensitive feminine women and emotionally sensitive masculine men, but they will display their emotions in a total different way (these are just examples). I don't know if I'm making any sense lmaaaao.

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    [–]oofreesouloo[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

    I've thought about this before! I think attempting to rigidly, specifically define masculinity and femininity is what led to the 62784632 genders, ultimately, as each and every variation and combination of traits was considered a distinct gender. It's not very specific imo, and subtle as you said.

    100% agree with you. :)

    Idk if this stuff is masculine

    For me, that's neither masculine or feminine. It depends on how you behave doing those things, your body language doing those. Your body language can be more 'masculine' or 'feminine'. You also have another lovely trait, which is being a funny lady (which I like on women).

    I find myself 'needing' to define masculinity and femininity because I actually feel turned off by what is considered a more 'masculine' body language and turned on by what is considered a more 'feminine' body language. I do not control it, but it's a pattern I notice and it's the best way I can put it.

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      [–]oofreesouloo[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

      Your sense of humor is one of my favorites in a woman haha. I love when women are funny like you 😂

      Ah that's a good point. I'm actually not that sure if my body language or tone etc. is all that feminine or masculine. I think it definitely leans more masculine though.

      Yes, what I mean is really the 'body language' and not exactly your personality traits per se (those aren't inherently masculine or feminine, though some tend to be associated more with masculinity and others with femininity). You do sound to have a more 'masculine vibe' by the way you speak at me lmao. This is something I feel, and have noticed even before this conversation. I don't know how to put into words. But that doesn't change the fact that I do think you're a lovely lady. :)

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        [–]oofreesouloo[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        I think some people are more aware and sensitive to these variations and others

        Based on my personal experience, definitely yes. Unfortunately, my body is very picky with these stuff. 😅