The "Sexual Spectrum": Why I Think It's Bunk

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[–]Gearbeta 29 insightful - 1 fun29 insightful - 0 fun30 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

Most of the time I hear things like this, it's either a clueless bisexual not understanding that not everyone is like them, or an attempt to get specifically women to do something they don't want to do. Like the obvious get a lesbian to date/fuck a man or a straight man trying to get his girlfriend into a FFM threesome despite her telling him multiple times she's not bi. It's coercive.

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    [–]TalerTest 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    People definitely don't respect women's sexuality as much as mens.

    Thats all it comes down to in the end.

    [–]writerlylesbian[S] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

    Yes, the coercive element is absolutely another reason to retire the whole thing.

    [–][deleted] 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

    The “sexual spectrum” is mostly to measure women’s openness to dick, or that is what it has become in the last 20 years.

    Men are much less likely to explore or even report same sex behaviour for social reasons (including shunning, violence, imprisonment, even death in some places), so the spectrum analysis is not really able to report many males, giving us a very inaccurate idea that more women are bisexual than men, when I really really believe there are just as many, if not MORE male bisexuals.

    [–]reader 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

    I also suspect it. In cultures and spaces where banging a man is not seen as feminine (ancient Greece, prisons, schools with internet) males bang each others like crazy. And they project their bisexual desires for men into women.

    [–][deleted] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    I know quite a few “straight” men who are deeply “bromantic” with other men. The way they speak about some of their male friends is literally like listening to a bisexual speak about someone they are into. Like, they really love and admire other guys and if the world was less dumb maybe those guys would have felt better about what seems like total bisexuality. Also, I’ve known quite a few “straight” women who REALLY talk about women in a way, and eventually they admit things like “you know....I am totally straight and all.....like so straight and everything, but like, I can understand why women like women....but I mean, not me.....but other women. You know?” and give it a minute and those same women are bi. Edit: and I don’t mean publicly bragging about being a “hot bisexual” I mean, secretly telling a lesbian and asking her not to tell anyone, and having a personal crisis over it.

    [–]mangosplums 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Definitely. I think that culture is starting to change a bit, but it's on the down low. I was hanging with two of my cousins, one male and one female, and my female cousin's boyfriend. He was chatting with my male cousin and casually asked if he was on grindr, and the cousin replied he's "everywhere". They obviously thought I would have never heard of grindr and wouldn't know what they were talking about. You'd never suspect either of these men were bisexual.

    [–]MyLongestJourney 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Most of the time I hear things like this, it's either a clueless bisexual not understanding that not everyone is like them, or an attempt to get specifically women to do something they don't want to do.

    Hear,hear!