Literally this morning, my partner and I were talking about how every other group in western society gets to set boundaries. No one expected black people to put up with Rachel Dolezal. When Muslims want a space to talk about Muslim issues, no one else gets to butt in. If an indigenous tribe wants to hold a cultural event, it’s perfectly understood that anyone who is not a member can’t go and steal the show. But, any time women or LGB people try to set similar boundaries, we’re suddenly the worst most hateful bigots in the history of the world.