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[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

There is a lot of misconception and just ineffective living that spouts from the good/bad nice/asshole dichotomy. There are a lot of other dimensions in life. Consider that a "nice" person may just simply be hiding a very predatory passive-aggressive streak, or else simply not confident or smart enough to enforce strong boundaries. Consider that someone you think is "bad" or an "asshole" may simply be enforcing a boundary. And then there is a whole other universe of adjectives that evade the good/bad dichotomy ("wise", "shrewd", "foolish", "inexperienced", etc.)

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

the good/bad nice/asshole dichotomy.

Flair checks out

Consider that someone you think is "bad" or an "asshole" may simply be enforcing a boundary.

Unfortunately I don't think most trans activists are much willing to think about this in anything more than 2 shades. "Transphobic" and "Non-Transphobic". One basically made a browser extension(shinigami eyes) that reduced the internet to just that.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

One basically made a browser extension(shinigami eyes) that reduced the internet to just that.

The fact there is none for homophobia is so telling.

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's telling, but I think it's good that it never devolved to that extreme level of black and white. For all TRAs talk about nuance and spectrums, they rarely accept any range of opinion when it comes to this.