Sex & IntimacyNo one's fully gay or straight, folks!!!!

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[–]HelloMomo 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

That first half kinda aligns with something I've sometimes thought. The term bi is really broad. Way broader than any other sexuality. It includes people of both sexes, with varying ratios of attraction, who have various primary relationships in their life. So I'd be curious to hear from a bi person: do you feel like other bi people in general are... meaningfully similar to you, I guess? Or are the people who you feel like are like you a smaller subset of bi people?

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In my experience, most of the outwardly bisexual people I've spoken to are either 50/50 or they tend to prefer the opposite sex, and because of it, I find the overall bisexual community to be fairly alienating. Personally, I don't relate to most bi people at all except for the febfem community and other bi women who are open about their strong preference for women.

I would say I fluctuate between 70-99.9% attracted to women, so I would just say I'm like 85% gay overall. The other 15%.... more trouble than it's worth haha. Not worth my time lmao

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Honestly, concerning anyone who falls on the more extreme ends of the spectrum, with almost no attraction to one sex or the other; I relate to them perhaps about as much as to a straight or gay person. It's significant, but it won't be as much as someone who more equally talks about their attraction to both; That much is clear to me by now. Also, the female experience is extremely different from the male one(duh), so that'll factor in heavily too. But a female bisexual actually having these equally-weighted attractions can somewhat mitigate the natural gulf of relatability from them being the opposite sex. And even their intrinsic degree of gender conformity can affect it too, among other things.

Bear in mind that relating to someone doesn't necessarily overlap with attraction, though. Two people can relate to one another strongly but still be weakly compatible; But that's another subject entirely.