I can see the relevance to our group, but I think when it's more tenuous or appears in the comments of the linked post, the relationship to our mission should be spelled out in an explanatory comment here and made clear in the subject of the post. I do think it's absolutely sad to see longstanding relationships with what appear to be reasonable and loving partners destroyed by these delusions.

Ngl, this post reminds me of my guilt over leaving my longstanding and supportive heterosexual relationship when I came out as gay, but my homosexuality is an easily observable fact and I wasn't leaving for validation purposes. I didn't want to be seen as different. Christ. That's a huge part of what kept me in the closet so long. It's not all fun and games when there's no choice but a lot of consequences. There was an irreconciliable, factual incongruence there that these transwidowers make a mockery of. The comment from the 38-year-old woman "realizing" she was trans at 30 especially struck me. Is gender identity something firmly set in childhood that kids just know and are absolutely certain of or not? How did this person survive 30+ years of apparently being violently "misgendered" without being a trans suicide statistic? Something tells me that pronouns were never important to her before. Also, query whether this is someone whose trans-identification began before or after becoming a mom. The latter seems exceedingly rare.

Of course, the most relevant examples to us in s/LGBDroptheT are gay couples that split up because one of them wants to chase their impossible dream of being straight. This seems way more common on the FtM end rather than the MtF end. And of course, possibly even worse, the pressure on the non-trans-identifying partner to identify as something other than gay or lesbian despite their factual homosexuality for the sole purpose of validating the transition of the now "straight" partner. Gay couples holding themselves out as heterosexual couples is stomach-turning. That's the nightmare that gay people in Iran and Pakistan have to deal with. To see it celebrated in the west is bonkers.

I agree that I don't love the s/gendercritical subsaidit, which is why I'm not active there, and I often wish we had a separate subsaidit where we can post non-LGB GC stuff that is still relevant to the wider issues. Some suggested an s/askLGBDroptheT subsaidit. I would like that.