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[–]reluctant_commenter 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

No that's a really good observation. I didn't think of that right away, I just thought they were being weird about his being gay, as straight people often are. But I could definitely see that as a possibility.

I'm so sorry to hear about those weird/uncomfortable experiences with people that you've had, that sounds like it could be really frustrating/isolating. I hope Buttigieg is doing okay on a personal level, whatever is the case for him.

[–]Virginia_Plain 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's all conjecture, but that's what I picked up on through descriptions of his behavior from this article and others. Of course, I'm not there, so there's always the risk of being like the /r/egg people and shrieking "aspie! apsie! you know that's what you are!" Some people are simply awkward.

As for the experiences, eh, it's all a learning experience. I am able to interact on a reasonably normal level, and have learned to look for certain things and adjust my behavior accordingly. Compared to when I was in my teens and early twenties, I am much more competent at gauging people's behavior and acting in a way that is more "normal human," though I give off pod person vibes to some people. The first woman I described....to be honest, I don't like her at all, but I've come to understand who she is and why she acts the way she does, so it's made me a hell of a lot less bitter towards her. She deserves her healing and her space, and I just tell her to fuck off when she decides to have a go at me.

[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

and I just tell her to fuck off when she decides to have a go at me.

Good on you for defending your boundaries. I respect your understanding and acknowledgment of her issues at the same time.