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[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I also think that repetition compulsion, for those who were sexually traumatized, can lead to confusion about one's true sexual orientation.

This is a psychological phenomenon where people feel compelled to re-enact a traumatic event, in a subconscious effort to resolve it-- to diffuse it; rob it of its power over them. It's especially common in response to having been raped.

So, if a straight man or lesbian is sexually assaulted by a male, they might compulsively seek out sex with men, and therefore conclude that they're bi... despite being, in reality, exclusively female-attracted. Because, for them, sex with men ISN'T about attraction; it's about something else: trying to gain control over an experience which haunts them.

Of course, while they need to resolve the trauma, this has to happen in a safe setting (like therapy)-- doing it this way simply re-traumatizes them.

[–]reluctant_commenter[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I completely agree and I really appreciate the way you described this phenomenon, it's a tough one to get a grasp of.