I get woke kids at my school asking me for my pronouns (they never ask my straight friends even if they are next to me), people using "they/them" for me without asking, etc.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this nonsense. Stay strong, it's awesome that you know yourself so well at such a young age! I was just jumping back into the closet at your age, hope you can stay out and proud through these tough times. Same-sex attraction is natural and it's okay to be a lesbian! It's not ok for her to make you uncomfortable and try to force an identity onto you. Respect is a two-way street, I would tell her that it makes me uncomfortable and set a boundary on her "invalidating your gender identity".

This is modern day homophobia. If you're an out homosexual, you'll be punished for it or judged/othered by peers. This seems almost worse than the blatant homophobia I grew up with in the mid 2000s, cus atleast we could point it out, this is done in the name of our own "community" and if we call it out, we're "bad gays".