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[–]Femaleisnthateful 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There's so much wrong with this I wouldn't know where to start, but I'll say this:

Queer Mom, your kids aren't going to be part of the Queer Community when they grow up. They're going to become politically conservative and join an evangelical Christian sect - if not an outright cult - just to have the sense of structure and security that was denied them by their postmodernist, reality-denying, normativity-deconstructing, anything-goes upbringing. Plus, their AGP daddy is probably abusing them as well.

Children who witness kink culture are reassured that alternative experiences of sexuality and expression are valid — no matter who they become as they mature, helping them recognize that their personal experiences aren’t bad or wrong, and that they aren’t alone in their experiences.

See now, here's the problem. There most certainly are 'experiences of sexuality and expression' which are invalid, bad and very very wrong. Queer Mom doesn't try to acknowledge that fact, which is very concerning, given that many 'kinks' are at least teetering on the edge of pedophilia, rape, assault and bestiality. Besides, in what world do literal children need 'reassurance' about sexual expression? I'd say most of them haven't given it any thought, besides the ones already being abused, and for those kids, nothing about this is the message they need.

The writer only briefly addresses boundaries and consent, but explicitly states that her endorsement of kink in Pride is a middle finger to any attempt by the general public or society at large to establish boundaries or revoke consent for explicit displays of (mostly male) sexuality. Remember, her kids didn't get any say in their participation, and she wants it that way.