Gay MenBeing a Gender Critical Feminine Gay Man (Difficulty, feeling alone)

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[–]artemisiagrey 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

As a gender non-conforming lesbian (who also grew up in the goth scene!), I get it. For a while there it looked like gender stereotypes were slowly being broken down. Now we're back where we started.

Knowing now that we've gone backwards and everything I went through would be interpreted as 'I'm really just a man' is so messed up. It feels like erasure of gender non-conforming experiences.

It took me years to finally get to a place where I could accept myself as a masculine woman. There are still days where I feel uncomfortable being myself in public. It's a process. But I am happier now, which is something.

Honestly, I don't know if any of this actually helps, but I do hear what you are saying. You're not alone in this.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience, it really does help! And yeah, I mean I do feel comfortable in the sense that even though I can be negatively perceived by the world around me when I'm out in public, I feel confident in how I look and I'm happy I'm being true to myself in that regard. It's just that sometimes it can be lonely when I can't find others like me but especially with the gender critical stuff.

[–]artemisiagrey 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I know what you mean. I have a friend who's gay but thinks he's doing the right thing by being supportive of all this nonsense. I know his heart is in the right place and hope he'll see what's going on eventually. I also know women who are gender critical but they're very straight and feminine so they don't get some of the things that get to me sometimes. I'm used to that by now though. I would love to meet a fellow LGB who's also gc in person someday.

[–]Kai_Decadence[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Exactly. And for some Gays and Lesbians who are rolling themselves over for the Trans nonsense thinking that they're doing the right thing, I get it because I was like that too until I really took a hard look at the ideology and how it was actually all a lie and negatively impacting women's rights and sanctions as well as being a sort of covert gay erasure.

I'm just waiting for the day whee some sort of Trans nonsensical event truly peaks a lot of people to see it for what it really is.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Totally OT of course, but can I just say what a lovely username you have? "Artemisia" is one of my all-time favorite female names, and it pairs beautifully with "Grey". So evocative, elegant, and poetic! Sounds like my dream girlfriend :)