LifestyleBreaking up w my gf over trans ideology..

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[–]plenty_water 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I hear you. I went to a hyper-progressive liberal arts college in the PNW for my undergrad and masters. There would be No. Way. In. Hell. i'd ever "misgender" someone to their face or around people that I do not know. Otherwise, the repercussions would be actually quite serious. I was a graduate assistant at my university and I could have been fired, have lost funding for my research, or removed from the program. So yes, I do the same thing. but in private, around my friends and family who know how I feel - I do not use people's pronouns.

But that's the thing that aggravates me about it. It is that I am forced to do it to their face, otherwise face repercussion. And in theocratic countries it's quite similar - you must adhere to their dogma or face repercussion despite not sharing their personal conviction. It is the fact that someone else is imposing a standard upon me that I do not believe in that freaks me out.

Does that make sense?

[–]HelloMomo 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It is that I am forced to do it to their face, otherwise face repercussion.

I hear you. If someone is saying "your fake god" in a context where they have religious freedom, that comes across like self-righteous atheist being a dick on purpose. If you change the context to a theocratic country where a person could face serious repercussions for that, suddenly that person seems like a brave rebel.

The difference I guess is "I'm deliberately doing this to provoke you, safe in the knowledge that you can't do anything about it - ha!" vs "I am risking a lot by saying this, but I'm doing it anyways because I believe this issue is important."