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[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 18 insightful - 3 fun18 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 3 fun -  (4 children)

I came out at 17 before I had a boyfriend and parents were less than thrilled but did not go into full freak-out mode. My first boyfriend was referred to by my mother (a semi-professional astrologer) as "that pisces". My first long-term partner got along with my mom better than he got along with me. Mom loathed the guy I dated afterwards and told me she preferred the previous one. Finally, she met my husband only once, just before she died, but she did tell me that she thought I should marry him.

I'm not sure if that was at all helpful to you but it did prompt me to think about my mom for a few minutes, which was nice, as she's been gone now for almost a decade.

[–]reluctant_commenter[S] 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Thank you for sharing! I wasn't looking for any particular kind of story, just wanted to hear people's experiences. Sounds like a mixed bag of responses depending on the person you were dating. How do you feel about your mom's reactions?

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I think it shows kind of an evolution from skeptical to fully accepting. "Fully accepting" would mean evaluating the merits of a boyfriend based on character rather than getting hung up on the same-sex issue. Some of my choices were terrible, at least one was excellent. I'm really sorry my mom didn't get a chance to interact more with my husband.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I’m sorry for the loss of your mother. I’m glad she’s come around to accepting your orientation and accepting your husband.

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 8 insightful - 4 fun8 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Thanks. My husband and I often recount one of my mom's memorable comments in that one single meeting between the two of them. Commenting on her man-friend's grand-daughter, she said: "I don't know where that girl thinks she's going, fat and singing Jesus songs". We often repeat that line because it was so typical of my mother!