No, there's nothing wrong with you. Dating is going to be really hard especially for people who don't fit with most of the stereotypes (dyed hair, rainbows everywhere, flannel, birkenstocks, etc.). Plus, with covid restrictions, I think the general consensus is that online dating is the way to go. However, once restrictions do lift, I think the best ideas I've seen so far for finding other lesbians/bi women in the wild are the ones that involve having a pendant.

I think if you want to go for something that's subtle but also obvious, you should get a labrys necklace and/or earings. Most of the time when we pass people in the street, we're more inclined to look at faces or what's directly in front of us. Since the earings (or necklace) would be around your face, you increase the chances of people seeing the labrys pendants moreso than if you were wearing a bracelet or had something on your bag. Seeing the pendants, I think, would make lesbians and bi women do a double take. If someone comments and says "labrys" then that's a dead give away that they're lesbian or bi or at the very least, in the know. If they say anything else like "battleaxe" then they most likely don't know the symbolism. Having a pendant would also give you plausible deniability if you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation; It's a lot easier to feign ignorance for an unassuming pendant than it is to feign ignorance for a flag pin.

I would also caution against getting anything that explicitly shows the labrys flag. This is because recently some people have been connecting the labrys flag with terfs. On top of that, the TQ+ crowd is very obsessed with flags and upon seeing a labrys flag pin they'll automatically know that you're a lesbian. They may also be more inclined to question you to see if you're a terf. There's also the rainbow flag but, that's obvious to everyone and not at all subtle. I think anything rainbow is more likely to draw in TQ+ people unfortunately. I guess overall it depends on how subtle or how obvious you want to be. You'll need to find a balance that you're comfortable with.

Either way, if you go for a flag pin or a labrys pendant, it's still up to you to weed through people. I just think a pendant offers more subtlety than a flag pin.

I might be biased in my opinion here because I like subtlety, discretion, and puzzles but, can you imagine if we all made it a point to wear labrys pendants? And what if we made it so that if the pendant were rightside up or upside down became an indicator for if someone was lesbian or bi? It would be like a nod to the past when people wore carnations.