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[–]Destresse🇨🇵 23 insightful - 2 fun23 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Lol. I get the concept of what she's saying, but, uh. Porn... Really?

I mean. As a teenager with lots of self-hatred and very few ways out of it, I was looking for a way to explore homosexuality without it ever implicating me, so I'd read fanfics with gay pairings. But nothing sexual. The day I discovered my sexuality was the day I started showing real interest in porn, still I don't consume it, because of my moral values, but I can't say I'm not feeling the urge sometimes. And I mean lesbian porn lol, I have never ever wanted to consume gay porn when I'm feeling horny... o_o that's just... counterproductive

To be honest, I wouldn't be very surprised if that woman is deeply traumatised. Most of my "coping mechanisms" (read: avoidance) regarding my sexuality/sexual urges are caused by trauma and shame.

[–]RedEyedWarriorGay | Male | 🇮🇪 Irish 🇮🇪 | Antineoliberal | Cocks are Compulsory 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

When I was discovering my orientation - a process which took four years - I got to a point where I was reading lesbian fan fiction to justify my interest in the gay community without making me look gay. I never got into it, and I always ended up reading gay slash stories without sending reviews. I wished I never came across fan fiction net, because it affected my interest in television and books, but it did became an excuse when my parents asked me why I was so happy when Ireland legalised civil partnerships. Plus, it forced me to acknowledge that I have no interest in women.