I'm a woman married to a man though we both realized we're bisexual after being married for years. We've always wanted children and being more in touch with our sexuality didn't change that. I agree with one of the comments that it's awful how common it is to think of children as something that "just happen." My husband and I spent a lot of time and effort getting financially and emotionally prepared to be parents, and after we felt ready we tried to have a baby for a year and are now getting fertility treatment.

We agree to be sex positive with our future kids though only teach them about sexuality in age-appropriate ways, and not inappropriately let them know about our sexual activity. I was sexually abused as a child and definitely don't want my kids to go through that. I'm open to the possibility of adoption if fertility treatments don't work, though I know adoption is a long, expensive, emotionally draining process.

The first line fertility treatment I'm starting is intrauterine insemination. My husband's semen analysis results are good. We have unexplained infertility and an IUI increases our chances. I don't have a problem with single women or women in same sex relationships deciding to have an IUI with donor sperm. How could I? I might not be able to have children without that help myself. However I become a parent, my children will be so wanted and loved, and their parents will have such unique perspectives to teach them. Infertility has been painful but we're excited to be parents.