I think the terms are fine and they have a specific use. Not every guy is going to be attracted to every body type and having a lexicon to make it easier to sift through who you find potential mutual attraction is a great way to not waste your own time. I describe myself both as a cub (because I'm overweight and hairy) and a top (because I'm the penetrative partner during anal sex). These terms are related to material reality. Certain terms I get annoyed at other people using, but understand that they aren't just limited to gay male lexicon. However, terms like twink as well as positional sex roles get me more irritated because they have specific meanings that get diluted when used by others.

Our treatment of GNC men is complicated. I may return to this question when I finish answering the rest (or edit it later).

I've gone through phases of liking certain stereotypical things. Drag remains one of those things that I continue to enjoy (depending on the performer) because it's an opportunity to support other gay man directly (via tips). Not every stereotypical hobby or interest applies to every gay man. I've been working these past couples years to push myself to explore the hobbies or interests I always wanted to take up and find an internal sense of validation to do so.

HIV & STI prevention that focuses on condom use; predatory older men; drug use and it's impact on our spaces; saying no to queer theory peddlers who try and involve themselves in our events, spaces, and resources.

I don't feel like I'm a part of the larger community as a gay man. I've worked in some gay male spaces and felt supported by my employers (gay and bi men), but felt attacked by "the other letters." A lot of this has to do with the fact that everyone tries to barge in and access these spaces. It often feels like gay men are expected to build and create everything for everyone, but never create anything exclusive for ourselves. I also feel like the other letters facilitate the discourse in academic settings and gay men have to endure the consequences. For example, Michel Foucault and Queer Theory. Why is this the only gay male perspective that gets taught when we are brought up? Why is it that we are not allowed to have another voice? Why do we always have to be presented as monolithic? If you are a lesbian or bisexual person in a teaching position in academia, why are you not qualifying what is in the course material with the fact that many gay men, even those outside of academia, disagree with this tool and think he's a creep?

I'm going to focus on the "gayden" part because I have more to say. I think these girls/women are creepy and predatory. I think that their harassment of gay boys and men is pushing us out of our own spaces, ones that many of us still need, and into darker corners. I feel especially sorry for and gay teenager stuck in high school right now because he'll be dealing with these clowns and that alienation in GSAs is going to send him out seeking adult spaces in hopes of finding other normie gay teens.

I tend to prefer hook-ups to dating. In dating, people put on facades. In hooking up, most guys will reveal the worst aspects of themselves so you get a feel for who they really are as a person. I don't feel like the "male" and "female" roles are as common in same-sex relationships among gay men. I feel like they can fluctuate. However, I feel like socialization around straight women often leads to gay men internalizing aspects of the "female role" in dating and failing to realize why this doesn't lead to a second or third date. My best relationship was with a closeted bi guy because our dates were actually fun and I didn't feel like I had to lead everything. My worst were with guys who said they "had fun" but were shocked when I told them I didn't because I felt like I was hauling ass throughout the entire thing only to get a stank face in response.

I think it's stupid.

Queer is stupid and meaningless- it relies on you observing the behaviour of the person to establish what they really mean. "F...t" I find offensive- I can take a drag queen using the term to be edgy, but everyone else can keep it out of their mouths. "Sassy" I feel is more applied to black women, so it isn't our term to use or be concerned about. "Homo" I hear less often. "Homosexual" I used to feel was a cringy when used because it sounded very medical, but as I've seen the word gay get diluted I understand the need for it to establish what I actually am. "Gay" see the previous. "Gaybie" is stupid. "Same-sex attracted" I'm fine with. "TEHM" I think was a cringy way for gaydens to try and insult gay men and I find it funny seeing gay men reclaim it.

I don't deal with as much discrimination as I used to. As an adult, most of the discrimination I experience has to do with being held to a higher standard in the workplace. It's often covert, and I see it applied to lesbians, too. In one workplace I was in, a straight woman in the office I worked in would routinely complain about how "slow" the lesbian woman was at doing her job (manual labour, had a bum knee but still pushed herself hard) and about how one gay guy in the IT department didn't know what his job was (he wasn't trained but was trying his best to fix every issue presented to him). This was a woman who spent all day browsing Amazon/doing little if anything productive. The discrimination I see most of us facing as adults centers around our labour and time being devalued and the idea that we aren't employable or deserving of employment.

The most annoying one is the pedophilia stereotype. I know for a damn fact that I am not one and that the vast majority of gay men are not either. I think this has contributed to a lot of the problems we face in building up spaces for our youth because many gay men are afraid of accusations for wanting to work with/help children and teens. Even those that do (such as teachers) remain closeted when gay teenagers need a level-headed mentor and not some Jeffree Star type to parasocially groom them.

I'm pro gay marriage. I don't want biological kids, but if I do get married I will likely foster.

I'm in Canada. Opinions vary person to person, but I think there is a strong, unspoken, negative undercurrent that festers in the actions of certain people. We're often treated as objects even by "friends" and if we don't fit a certain mold we are tossed aside for a more "fun, agreeable" gay man. I think a lot of Middle Eastern countries would qualify as the least accepting because of the forced sex changes.