Her now accepts He/Him Straight (clearly natal) Men. Makes perfect sense.

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[–][deleted] 20 insightful - 3 fun20 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 3 fun -  (7 children)

What is he expecting? I'm so confused as to why he would go on a lesbian dating app as a self professed straight man and expect that there would be anyone willing to give him the time of day. Are there bi women on Her as well he's hoping to hookup with? Even if there were I thought the point of Her was to meet other women. Is Her no longer a a lesbian app? I see on their website that it's for 'queer womxn' so I guess not but like. Is he trolling? "Straight, He/him, Man" is neither 'queer' nor a woman so wtf?? I'm thinking about this too hard.

[–]lovelyspearmintLesbeing a lesbian[S] 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

He's looking for bisexual women, I'm guessing?

So Her used to be for lesbians, then they added bisexuals, then they added transwomen and non-binary women, then trans men and non binary men, then finally straight men. So Her should be just called Her/Him by this point.

[–]Kai_Decadence 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

Would it be fair to say that as soon as they started adding bisexuals, it was downhill from there? I'm not trying to hate on bisexuals, I know not all of them are a certain way but most of the problems do stem from them in Lesbian/Gay spaces. For example, because bisexuals can be attracted to both sexes, of course on average they wouldn't be as bothered seeing men calling themselves "Transbians" or on the gay side (my home front), women calling themselves men. Like we all know those bisexual girls who call their relationships with trans-identified men a "Lesbian" relationship or bisexual man dating a trans-identified woman a "Gay Relationship".

[–]Rag3 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

You bring up a point that I’ve wondered about a lot.

My orientation fits into the lgb space when I am with a same sex partner, otherwise what’s the point? I get flack from younger bisexuals for feeling that way though.

[–]Kai_Decadence 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah I used to wonder myself until I just put two and two together and realized that most of this nonsense is coming from people who can be attracted to both sexes though more specifically, those who fall into the categories of Androphilia (Attraction to masculinity regardless of sex) and Gynephelia (Attraction to femininity regardless of sex).

My orientation fits into the lgb space when I am with a same sex partner, otherwise what’s the point? I get flack from younger bisexuals for feeling that way though.

I'm not surprised to hear younger bisexuals give you flack. They've been growing up in this culture of gender rules above all unfortunately and it takes quite a bit to deprogram that and get them to really think critically.

[–]CaptainWTFman-hating bisexxual 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Like we all know those bisexual girls who call their relationships with trans-identified men a "Lesbian" relationship or bisexual man dating a trans-identified woman a "Gay Relationship".

Are they really even bisexual at that point though, or just "woke straight?"

Also, as a bi person, I have really not appreciated being expected to be the dumping grounds for every trans person's dating fantasies. I tried to play along, went on a date once with a "transbian," and realized that I found the idea revolting. (Side note: when I told this person that I didn't think I wanted to have another date, they said "I always seem to end up going on dates with women who don't actually like women." ....I let them believe that that was the problem.) I know other bi folks clearly do not feel the same, hence all the masturbatory "validation" posts going on at r/actuallesbians and the like. But if I'm on a female-oriented dating app, it is because I want to date women. Actual women.

[–]Kai_Decadence 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Are they really even bisexual at that point though, or just "woke straight?"

I want to say that a good lot of them are just Straight women and men looking for oppression & WOKE points. I'll even go as far to question if these "Lesbian bisexual" women who claim to be in a "lesbian relationship" with their transbian partner has ever dated a woman in the past because I think the answer to that would be telling.

Also, as a bi person, I have really not appreciated being expected to be the dumping grounds for every trans person's dating fantasies. I tried to play along, went on a date once with a "transbian," and realized that I found the idea revolting. (Side note: when I told this person that I didn't think I wanted to have another date, they said "I always seem to end up going on dates with women who don't actually like women." ....I let them believe that that was the problem.) I know other bi folks clearly do not feel the same, hence all the masturbatory "validation" posts going on at r/actuallesbians and the like. But if I'm on a female-oriented dating app, it is because I want to date women. Actual women.

I understand. Again, I'm not saying that all Bisexual women and men are like this and I know there are some who don't buy into this Transgender ideology but it's just that in my experience it usually comes from people who can be attracted to both sexes. I have never come across a self-respecting gay man who is attracted to "Transmen" or a Lesbian who was attracted to a "transwoman" because we know the truth.