Is Asexuality a sexuality or not?

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[–]Wandering_Idiot 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Bisexual is attracted to two different sex not gender or personality or emotional connection. Lesbian is attracted to the same sex not gender or personality or emotional connection. Demisexual is default to zero attraction until a strong emotional attachment forms. Just to be clear, I'm not attracted to someone's biological sex nor do I have any form of genital preference. When I look at a person I might as well be looking at an aesthetically pleasing painting. I see beauty but I have the same amount of sexual attraction to people as I do to a slab of canvas covered in oil paint. The issue I have with squishing them all together is it implies that bisexuals and lesbians just need to find the right dick. Or that they have zero issue with being sexually intimate with a trans person who might have conflicting genitals.

It's not about being "special" it's about realizing that grouping bisexuals and homosexuals with asexuals and those who fall under the asexual spectrum a.k.a. demisexuals is kind of insulting for everyone involved. Especially the homosexuals, because no amount of emotional bonding is going to make a lesbian ok with dick or a gay man ok with pussy.

You don't have to like it; but, asexuals exist. As I mentioned they have been documented throughout history. This isn't a random fad that's happened in the last decade but a persistent sexuality that seems to pop up across all races and cultures in the same manner that we see other legitimate sexualities; homosexuality, bisexuality, and transsexuality. This is something you don't see with the stupid micro labels; there aren't moonsexuals documented history, nor across race and culture barriers.

[–]strictly 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Demisexual is default to zero attraction until a strong emotional attachment forms.

I believe asexual people exist (people who are never sexually attracted to anyone). Your definition of demisexual here though is very broad and would include many heterosexual, homosexual and bisexual people as is not that uncommon for people to be unable to feel sexual attraction until they have a deep connection with the person in question.

grouping bisexuals and homosexuals with asexuals and those who fall under the asexual spectrum a.k.a. demisexuals is kind of insulting for everyone involved. Especially the homosexuals, because no amount of emotional bonding is going to make a lesbian ok with dick or a gay man ok with pussy.

Your definition of demisexual, defaulting to zero attraction until a strong emotional attachment forms doesn't imply that the demisexual person would have to be pansexual, okay with all genitals as long as the emotional bonding is there. For some people the emotional bonding and the person being of the right sex are both requirements for sexual attraction to be able to kick in.

If you don't want demisexuals to be grouped with heterosexuals, homosexuals and bisexuals then you should narrow the definition of demisexual so it no longer includes people who are able to experience attraction. If you only exclude those who experience attraction pre deep bonding then you will inevitably categorize some heterosexuals, homosexuals and bisexuals as demisexual too.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

What. The. Hell... What does that you said has to do with what I said? I believe in asexuality. I just don't believe in demisexuality or whatever that is lmao. I don't understand why you brought up all that genital preference issue into the table. And bisexuals don't hear that "you'll find the right dick or pussy", only homosexuals because bisexuals already do like pussy or dick. Oh, and by the way, if you read my comments on here, you'll see I don't want asexuals lumped in together with LGB. So I really don't understand you sorry lmao.

[–]hyunnahh 5 insightful - 4 fun5 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Your reaction is the same as mine lmao. I tried to comprehend this person's comment and failed, and gave up trying to give a reply altogether.

[–]Wandering_Idiot 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I brought up genital preference because we are talking about sexuality; heterosexual, homosexuals, and bisexuals all have it. you can't really have a discussion about sexuality without it coming up. Without a genital preference we are essentially running into 'we are all non binary and don't care' bull shit. And yes bisexuals do get the whole "maybe you'll find the right dick/pussy and be strait" crap to, maybe even more so as because they are attracted to the opposite sex as well they'll sometimes be called 'confused' or just 'curious' and will 'normal out' in the end. I don't care about your other comments I'm not going to stalk your post history.

[–]MezozoicGayoldschool gay 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Sexual orientation is not a preference.

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Girl were talking about demisexuality. That's irrelevant to our discussion