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[–]Lizzythelezzo 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (24 children)

I don't know, I still don't want to kiss on the lips or make out with my platonic friends or family. A lot of asexual people like kissing, holding hands and cuddling their partner, and still get married and have kids together. They just don't particularly want to do activities that stimulate the genitals. I suppose you could say this is a platonic life partner, rather than a romantic non-sexual relationship. But if I had a truly platonic life partner I wouldn't want to kiss them at all because there would be no romantic attraction there whatsoever.

[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (23 children)

I don't see how it is lack of sexuality.

Is this world too depraved by porn, that just normal family and relationship without being sex addicts is counted as asexuality? LMAO

[–]DifferentAirGC 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

without being sex addicts

A normal couple would still have sex a few times, while true asexual people wouldn't want have sex with each other not even once.

[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

How exactly you have kids together without sex?

[–]DifferentAirGC 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

They would only have sex to have the kid, and then never again. Although if they are rich they can avoid even that and do artifical insemination.

[–]emptiedriver 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

and how is the male getting an erection and ejaculating to fertilize the woman? Most people don't get pregnant on the first try either

[–]DifferentAirGC 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

A man can get hard and ejaculate even during rape, doesn't mean he is actually aroused, it's a physical reflex.

Edit: about this whole debate, would you say the most normal and healthy relationship would be one in which the couple only has sex for the first few years of marriage (to have kids) and then spends the next 30-50 years without touching each other at all?

[–]emptiedriver 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

A man can get hard and ejaculate even during rape,

Asexual men? I thought having a sexual response when you weren't mentally interested was due to your body being sexually stimulated against your will. But here it would be a willing man with no sexual interest being sexually stimulated...

Eh, whatever, it doesn't really matter what you call it, but it seems silly to me to call it "asexual" if you have a reproductive system, since technically you are a sexual being, even if your libido is low and you don't feel attracted to anyone.

Plenty of people don't have a lot of sex at various points in their lives. It's a stereotype (based on something) that couples stop having sex once they get married or have kids, for example. Older people can stop being very interested in sex. Depressed people can lose their libido. Not everyone is constantly doing it.

But actually asexual would be a robot without genitalia. Otherwise you're a sexed being.

If you are interested in a partner you're oriented toward some type or other.

If you ever think about non-platonic touching (intimacy you would enjoy with your partner but not with your parents) you have some level of libido, however low it may be.

If you're a sexed being with no interest in a partner who has never thought about private touching at all, my thinking is that you have somehow never fully physically matured and I wouldn't put a label on it yet. But everyone's different and if you're happy there's no need to force anything. I'd still call it nonsexual rather than asexual since asexual implies not having a sex. Still, given there are a huge range of levels of sex drive, and they change over time, age, circumstance, surrounding people, mood, etc, lots of people go through periods not thinking about sex, I wouldn't be certain it's so black and white. Probably a low sex drive, not with the right (type of) person, and/or with other things on their mind.

[–]Lizzythelezzo 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (16 children)

I thought it was pretty average for couples to have sex once or twice a week? A lot of asexual couples never have sex, or maybe once or twice a year at most.

[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (15 children)

With my husband I had sex less than once a year after doctor diagnose of my frigidness/asexuality. Later in life I was having sometimes 3-4 times sex a day with my girlfriend ;)

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (14 children)

3-4 times pretty extreme

[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (13 children)

You know we would have more~

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (12 children)

My libido right now is under zero. All the stress and worries. But I'm sure you would fix that

[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (11 children)

I hope, that one day~

[–]Elvira95Viva la figa 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (10 children)

I will order my ukrainian flight as soon as I can...

[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

Damn, girl >.<