''Aromantic'' makes no sense.

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[–]Lesbianese⚢ 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Why?

I'm starting to agree with this mindset but maybe not for the same reason as you. The people I see that call themselves aromantic, especially aromantic + asexual, seem to want all the intimacy of a relationship without the responsibility or are completely repulsed by physical intimacy due to psychological issues or some kind of sensory disorder.

Always thought the split between romantic and sexual attraction was dumb but, and this might be a controversial stance, I think some people genuinely do not like sex and find it upsetting/unpleasant regardless of the partner without having trauma (probably due to some kind of neurological or developmental issue, if I had to guess) and I could see how calling yourself a bi asexual or whatever could be a convenient way to get across what you're looking for in a companion.

Still seems stupid to cater to such a small demographic. In an ideal world it'd be hetero/bi/homo and then asexual be listed as a symptom (that doesn't require treatment or therapy).

[–]Jinera 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This could make sense for people with autism. According to a Dutch researcher 1 in 5 women with autism consider themselves asexual. As someone with autism I can understand why, touch can be incredibly uncomfortable to us due to the oversensitivity and some genuinely do not recognise sexual attraction (I for example, had for years trouble with feeling anger. Even if I was angry, there was such a disconnect between what I felt in my head and what I physically felt, that I would not know I was angry). So that there are people who are autistic and asexual makes complete sense to me.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I mean if you consider asexuality a symptom which doesn't require therapy or treatment then why consider it a disorder? It's almost like how some people see homosexuality as a disorder which doesn't have to be treated and stuff. I think people made these aromantic stuff later as a natural consequence of people saying that they are asexual but still fall in love and date... as an asexual it felt natural to me to associate asexuality with aromanticism without specifying it with yet another label. I feel like people who are romantic asexuals aren't really asexuals. It's also interesting to see the statistics. Most of asexuals identify as aromantics as well.

[–]Lesbianese⚢ 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I mean if you consider asexuality a symptom which doesn't require therapy or treatment then why consider it a disorder?

I was thinking more in the context of if they find asexuality to have ties to Autism or some other brain/developmental condition, it would be listed but if someone doesn't feel like they're missing out because of it, then why spend the resources on working on that?

I feel like people who are romantic asexuals aren't really asexuals.

Perhaps you're right, it's hard to find out because any scientific studies are treated as "aphobic" by a sizable amount of people who are in the "aspec community". I've seen them do petitions over drugs that were for people who have low libido and hate it, claiming it was conversion therapy.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I've seen them do petitions over drugs that were for people who have low libido and hate it, claiming it was conversion therapy.

Lol that's funny especially when they are the same people screaming like mantra that low libido isn't asexuality.

[–]reluctant_commenter 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hah, good catch-- that's another mindbending TQ+ contradiction.