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[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Great answer! Just one thing! She doesn't label herself at all. I'm the one assuming she's bi, because she clearly feels attraction towards both sexes. But, you and others here who said the same thing might be right - she might still be figuring herself out.

"f you're worried about her possibly being fake because she didn't give you a clear answer regarding what kind of girls she likes, I wouldn't be. Not everyone has a type."

She told me in that conversation that she believes everyone has a type, surprisingly. Which leads me to think she's just a very insecure bisexual woman who is still getting comfortable with herself. She didn't say to me "everyone's little bi". She said to me "everyone's on a spectrum". I feel like she's afraid of calling herself bisexual. I feel like she doesn't want the stigma and to deal with the homophobia so she prefers to say she's on the "straight side" of the "spectrum scale", even though she sometimes feel attracted to women. But you may be right as well. She can be confused indeed and still questioning! Thanks for your answer! :)

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Gotcha. The fact that she's kind of floundering around seems to me that she's afraid to call herself bi like you said, which is really sad. If she likes men and women she's bisexual by definition.

Maybe you can try to causally correct her when she says everyone is on a spectrum or that everyone has a type. Plant the seeds little by little to help her realize that as someone confused about her own sexuality she doesn't get to be the authority on other people's sexualities by making statements like that. Then again, maybe she can avoid getting wrapped up in calling herself pan if she thinks everyone has a type, since pansexuals claim to 'love people, not bodies'.

I dunno. She sounds a little irritating in this regard lol.