I also find myself looking sideways at anyone who sounds woke, because pretty soon, they are going to start regurgitating things they haven't thought about and don't know enough about. I don't blame you for being wary. I'd be the same. But not because someone seems bisexual, just because if they say enough woke things that relate to marginalizing gay people or women in the guise of trans acceptance, I'm going to back away.

I would say take it slow and let her reveal her attitudes to you innocuously over time. Sadly, this is the world we currently live in. Or you can just be forthright, but I could not fault you for not taking that road. I don't.

I think a bunch of my woke friends actually are unaware of the layers of insanity that go along with dutiful agreement with TRA priorities. I think they're hearing a very diluted version and since it mostly doesn't affect them, they don't wonder if there might be more to it, i.e. they don't think very hard, for example, about why "TERF" is a slur and whether or not blind acceptance of that is all that wise. (Which contemplation is the one that led me here, via Reddit. For a minute or two I accepted that, too, but the vitriol didn't at all seem to match the complaints. Turns out there's a reason for that.)

It isn't your job to lead all of those who are asleep (funny, given how woke they think they already are) to awareness, so I agree with a pick-your-battles approach. This doesn't need to be one. Sucks for her, but your sanity and safety matter, too.