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[–]PeakingPeachEaterfemale♀ | detrans🦎 | eater of peaches 🍑 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah, it is tricky. It's crazy how your brother was in that cycle despite your parents not pushing gendered stuff but good that your brother mellowed out after getting married!

My current partner doesn't mind too much either doing "womanly" things. He'll buy me female products, or hold his mom's purse and joke around dancing and "twerking" on me to make me laugh lol. He doesn't care if that makes him seem "feminine". It's just other stuff he gets really weird about such as "men have to take out the trash" and "No men should be a stay at home dad" and I'm like...okay? My dad was a stay-at-home because he retired(he was MUCH older than my mom). Then he told me "that's different though" lol. Taking out the trash isn't a "gendered" think either. He loosened up about the trash thing when I told that's silly and that I had to take out my OWN trash when I was single so it's not a big deal haha.

[–]artetolife 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

That mentality can manifest is some very strange ways lol. I've met guys who are perfectly reasonable but they wont push a shopping trolley at the supermarket, dumb things like that.