LGB ErasureLA Gays discuss the label "Queer" and keeping their minds open to heterosexual attraction. Is anyone else creeped out by the emphasis on needing to remind ourselves that our sexual orientation is "malleable?"

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But the emphasis by Carson McCalley on using the word "queer" for himself to remind himself to "keep the door open" to attraction to other types of people (read people of the opposite sex) weirded me out.

See, now that's just coming right out and saying it. THAT is why I am not "queer". All of these words, lesbian, gay, homosexual, are either being systematically erased or are having their boundaries eroded.

isn't it more helpful to yourself and to others you meet if you're a man who has only ever been attracted to men to use a word for yourself to convey specifically that?

I think that reality is legitimately offensive to some people, and they choose to believe that such people are just lying. "Hearts not parts" is the homophobic catchphrase of 2020.