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[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Abnormal is not inherently a value judgment. It just means sufficiently statistically different from an identifiable majority.

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

That's also correct. But again, people on this sub usually shit their rainbow/Labrys patterned adult diapers when you say the word "abnormal" because they somehow get it conflated with "immoral."

And while I do believe homosexuality is negative, I mean it in a health sense, not a moral one. It's not immoral for me to be depressed, for example, but depression is bad because it severely, negatively impacts my life.

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Idk I find the people in here infinitely more reasonable and realistic when it comes to discussions about the realities of homosexuality and bisexuality. Which is why we’re not trying to tear down the fabric of society to cater to our every whim or acting like society shouldn’t pretend that the vast majority of people are straight.

I hope you find whatever you need to treat your depression though.

[–]OPPRESSED_REPTILIANIntersex male | GNC | Don't call me "a gay", "twink" or "queen" 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That has not been my experience. Usually I just see people denying science and reality (when it suits them, of course. Science is only valid when it invalidates TRA arguments, otherwise it's "homophobic" lol) and screeching "homophobia" at anything from me saying "Hey I'm not having a good time being gay" to a bi person calling themself gay once.

[–]deliciousdogfoodmy name isnt a puppyplay reference i swear 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

people on this sub usually shit their rainbow/Labrys patterned adult diapers when you say the word "abnormal" because they somehow get it conflated with "immoral."

From what I've seen of the almost always argumentative conversations you have on here, people tend to attack you more because you often conflate your personal traumatic experiences with homosexuality itself, rather than the corrosive social climate that surrounds it. It's always a very defeatist and negative tone from you, with all the tact of a brick through a window.

The ideal mean of reddit's overly sanitized policed speech and something like /pol/'s complete lack of any filter whatsoever is the kind of empathy and decency one would hope to see in day to day interactions. I.E not consistently phrasing your arguments in a way that shadows a religious fundamentalist calling us all freaks.

You're not the only one here who has been abused on account of your sexuality. If you want people to be more respectful in their responses to you, I'd consider being more respectful in the way you frame your talking points. Otherwise, you're probably just going to get kneejerk reactions from people who hear the voices of people who have attacked them in the past in your words.

A little less generalizing would probably help, too. That's a bad habit of yours, and it's personally turned me off of wanting to engage in conversation with you several times because it's often too big a roadblock to bother overcoming in a conversation with someone online.

It's all up to you, though; you can always continue as you have, no one is stopping you. But you're probably not going to convince anyone when you always come off as contrarian and provocative - a successful discourse requires more than the courage to bring up polarizing topics.

Got nothing on the biphobia though, that puzzles me just as much and seems to be another kneejerk reaction.