LesbianAm I still lesbian if I also like trans/andro/non binary people as well?

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[–]denverkrisMy pronouns are Vodka?/Yes!/please[S] 42 insightful - 19 fun42 insightful - 18 fun43 insightful - 19 fun -  (1 child)

Of course! Anyone can be a lesbian these days, all dicks are welcome in lesbian land! /s

Fucking barf.

[–]BigMommyMilkersYes, they're real 38 insightful - 25 fun38 insightful - 24 fun39 insightful - 25 fun -  (0 children)

Married with 4 kids? sucked dicks like they're one of your 5 a day? but find that Instagram celebrity pretty? Lesbian.

[–]julesburm1891 37 insightful - 16 fun37 insightful - 15 fun38 insightful - 16 fun -  (0 children)

“I’m bi, does this mean I can pretend to be lesbian?” would’ve been a more accurate post from OP.

[–]BigMommyMilkersYes, they're real 39 insightful - 4 fun39 insightful - 3 fun40 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

God I am glad this website exists, at least we have some rationality here

[–][deleted] 32 insightful - 4 fun32 insightful - 3 fun33 insightful - 4 fun -  (2 children)

she is bisexual and should be living in her truth. the stupidity of this ideology...

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 27 insightful - 2 fun27 insightful - 1 fun28 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Nah, this is another example of a heterosexual woman trying to convince herself she’s a lesbian because of all of the LGBT grooming propaganda out there (which I’ve come to realize is an actual thing). She’s trying to force herself to be attracted to women and isn’t, whereas she freely admits that attraction to men comes easily for her.

[–][deleted] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

😔

[–][deleted] 26 insightful - 4 fun26 insightful - 3 fun27 insightful - 4 fun -  (12 children)

I once bumped into a woman on reddit who was attracted to effeminate men, trans-women (only because they're effeminate men), and NB / androgynous men. She said she was 18 but sounded younger. Wtf is going on here? Is this some weird version of autoandrophilia? E.g. they attracted to the idea of being male, so they have some sort of pseudo-bisexuality? Or maybe, they're intimidated by men and find relationships with women safer and more familiar, and this is the safest way for them to be attracted to men.

From another post by the op:

I like girls. I’m not sexually attracted to them but just find girls very attractive and just overall better. I have watched lesbian porn and found it nice but not extremely arousing. Anyways, I think I’m 90% attracted to girls and idk about the last percent. There are some boys I’ve found cute and have thought about dating but at the end of the day I’d rather be their friend.

But to conclude, its just weird how I don’t get that same butterfly feeling for girls as I do boys. I know i like them but I just cant wrap my head around it.

[–]IridescentAnacondastrictly dickly 30 insightful - 17 fun30 insightful - 16 fun31 insightful - 17 fun -  (1 child)

Weird how I don't get that same butterfly feeling for a member of the same sex, like I do for members of the opposite sex. How strange for a lesbian like myself!

[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 11 insightful - 10 fun11 insightful - 9 fun12 insightful - 10 fun -  (0 children)

The inner monologue of any remaining menstruators on r/actuallesbians.

[–]denverkrisMy pronouns are Vodka?/Yes!/please[S] 26 insightful - 10 fun26 insightful - 9 fun27 insightful - 10 fun -  (1 child)

I think maybe she should just get off the internet and go, idk, live life or something.

[–][deleted] 28 insightful - 8 fun28 insightful - 7 fun29 insightful - 8 fun -  (0 children)

99% of r/lgbt needs to get off the internet and get a life

[–]sgtduffy 28 insightful - 2 fun28 insightful - 1 fun29 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

jesus. lots of my straight girl friends can also appreciate the beauty of other girls, but that don't make them lesbians. OP is straight as hell.

[–][deleted] 20 insightful - 2 fun20 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

oh 100%. I think she's young and just needs to do some growing up. It peeves me though that there are adults on there telling her she's a lesbian, or that there's these really bad ideas going around that gay is some fluid kind of label, and that lesbians can like men etc.

[–]reluctant_commenter 15 insightful - 9 fun15 insightful - 8 fun16 insightful - 9 fun -  (4 children)

But to conclude, its just weird how I don’t get that same butterfly feeling for girls as I do boys. I know i like them but I just cant wrap my head around it.

Haha, for me it's the opposite-- so I must be a straight woman then!

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Same HAHAHA 🤣🤣🤣

[–]reluctant_commenter 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Hey, I haven't seen you in a while! Hello 😁 hope things are going well!

[–]oofreesouloo⚡super lesbian⚡ 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Hey what's up! :P Yeah, college has started and I've been much busier than before so I don't come here as often. Hope you're doing great as well :D

[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Totally fair, I get on here probably too often even though my work has gotten busy 😆 thanks!! :)

[–]zephyranthes 15 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I once bumped into a woman on reddit who was attracted to effeminate men, trans-women (only because they're effeminate men), and NB / androgynous men. (...) Or maybe, they're intimidated by men and find relationships with women safer and more familiar, and this is the safest way for them to be attracted to men.

Mostly this. Scared of "chads", sexism, revenge porn, the "bros before hos" attitude, so into men who (she thinks) won't betray her (haha fat chance, men who perceive themselves to be failures as men are the worst perverts). This is everywhere on teenage twitter. I mean, South Korea's export is 20% semiconductors and 80% softbois.

[–][deleted] 23 insightful - 10 fun23 insightful - 9 fun24 insightful - 10 fun -  (4 children)

I think we should take a moment to appreciate the update: Update: i’ll just be identifying as gay now and won’t put a label on it. Thank you to everyone who gave me great advice! All the Terfs can suck it.

... because gay is no longer a label. claps.

[–][deleted] 19 insightful - 8 fun19 insightful - 7 fun20 insightful - 8 fun -  (0 children)

no brains, just worms these ppl have.

[–]denverkrisMy pronouns are Vodka?/Yes!/please[S] 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

lmao. these quacks would be good for entertainment if they weren't simultaneously screwing up the world.

[–]LeaveAmsgAfterBeep 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It’s an accessory. I read a comment from someone in gen z at some point saying that most people in gen z literally see being lgbt/queer as an aesthetic and nothing to do with anything else. It makes sense, except a surprising number of the people into this are also millennials or gen x and even boomers.

[–]lmaonope333 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

by "it" I hope she means a clitoris because I'd sooner castrate a dick than suck one

[–]lmaonope333 23 insightful - 5 fun23 insightful - 4 fun24 insightful - 5 fun -  (1 child)

if you have to ask the internet permission to call yourself a lesbian then chances are you aren't one

[–]reluctant_commenter 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think people just shouldn't ask others on the internet what sexuality they are. How am I supposed to know? All I know is what someone tells me.

Many people here are quick to assume a sexual orientation when really it could just be a fetish at play (in a relationship with a trans person)-- or vice versa. Or.. perish the thought, emotional abuse may be trapping someone in such a relationship. The "trans widow" blog talks about that.

[–]ChodeSandwichtender and moist 22 insightful - 6 fun22 insightful - 5 fun23 insightful - 6 fun -  (2 children)

"Someone else identifying differently doesn't change your sexuality" LMAO so by their own logic, it's totally valid for a lesbian to reject a man even though he's decided he's something else. Glad we could clear that up!

[–]julesburm1891 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I read that comment as actually being on our side.

[–]ChodeSandwichtender and moist 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You're probably right. I stand corrected!

[–]denverkrisMy pronouns are Vodka?/Yes!/please[S] 20 insightful - 4 fun20 insightful - 3 fun21 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

My favorite was the "androgynous" part. Like, am I a lesbian if I like women who are "androgynous". That question makes me think that she doesn't know any real life lesbians.

[–]chazzstrong 17 insightful - 4 fun17 insightful - 3 fun18 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

...I just want to say, the 'casuallycruelhonesty' in that thread is my fucking personal superhero.

[–]deliciousdogfoodmy name isnt a puppyplay reference i swear 14 insightful - 6 fun14 insightful - 5 fun15 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

Everyone lesbanini now, especially men with sissy fetishes

[–]denverkrisMy pronouns are Vodka?/Yes!/please[S] 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

And of course, I was banned from the sub for my "lesbians are adult human females" comment, and the sub has now made the mandatory "Terfs aren't welcome here" post.

https://www.reddit.com/r/comphet/comments/jksgvt/this_is_not_a_terf_safe_sub_nor_will_it_ever_be/

As usual, telling anyone that they aren't a lesbian (especially males) leads to the obligatory silencing.